美文赏析:别人是你的一面镜子~请把握好人生中的每一面镜子

每天照照镜子，我们都会发现自己不满意的地方，重新把自己打扮得漂漂亮亮的；而人呢？是否也懂得其实每一个人都是一面镜子。看着自己不喜欢的人，要懂得自己要如何更好的完善自己，别让自己也成为大家不喜欢的对象。请把握好人生中的每一面镜子。

别人是你的一面镜子

The first time you meet someone, in the first moment you form an impression in

your mind of that person. Your reactions to other people, however, are really

just barometers for how you perceive yourself. Your reactions to others say

more about you than they do about others. You cannot really love or hate about

yourself. We are usually drawn to those who are most like us and tend to

dislike those who display those aspects of ourselves that we dislike.

   
Therefore, you can allow others to be the mirror to illuminate more clearly

your own feelings of self-worth. Conversely, you can view the people you judge

negatively as mirrors to show you what you are not accepting about yourself.

  
To coexist peacefully with others, you will need to learn tolerance. A big

challenge is to shift your perspective radically from judgment of other to a

lifelong exploration of yourself. Your task is to assess all the decisions,

judgments you make onto others and to begin to view them as clues to how you

can heal yourself and become whole.

      
I recently has a business lunch with a man who displayed objectionable table

manners. My first reaction was to judge him as offensive and his table manners

as disgusting. When I noticed that I was judging him, I stopped and asked

myself what I was feeling. I discovered that I was embarrassed to be seen with

someone who was chewing with his mouth open and loudly blowing his nose. I was

astonished to find how much I cared about how the other people in the

restaurant perceived me.

   
Remember that your judgment of someone will not serve as a protective shield

against you becoming like him. Just because I judge my lunch partner as

offensive does not prevent me from ever looking or acting like him. In the

same way, extending tolerance to him would not cause me to suddenly begin

chewing my food with my mouth open.

   
When you approach life in this manner, those with whom you have the greatest

grievances as well as those you admire and love can be seen as mirrors,

guiding your to discover parts of yourself that you reject and to embrace your

greatest quality.