支招单身人士:如何轻松约会成功?

　　5. Stiffening or closed-in body posture

　　身体僵硬型

　　You know what YOU do in uncomfortable situations. You fold your arms tightly across your chest. You stiffen your spine. You tightly cross your legs. You turn your body at an angle away from the person you are facing. You lean away from the person you are with.

　　在一个不自在的场合下，相信你也有类似的举动：脊梁骨发僵，双臂交叉放在胸前，双腿并拢脚下吃劲，面对面时打偏座避免直面对方，并排坐时会下意识地把身体往反方向躲……等等。

　　Of course, the reverse is true when the interaction feels good. You lean forward. Your arms are relaxed or laying open to the person. You face the other person directly. Your posture is relaxed and at ease.

　　反之如果环境和交流让你感到轻松，上面这些举动就全部会倒过来。你会肘臂前倾，身体放松，面向对方体态舒展，整个人处于自然轻松的状态。

　　It's fairly easy to interpret the closed-in posture. The other person feels uncomfortable They aren't open to the interaction with you. They would rather not be there.

　　防御性的姿态很好分辨，如果对方跟你一起感到不快，他自然不会放松舒展，事实上，他们巴不得立刻逃离你身边。

　　6. Physical Contact

　　摸摸碰碰型

　　Perhaps the easiest communication to read correctly is that of touch. If your date avoids taking your hand or putting his arm around you he may be uncomfortable or unsure. He may also be shy, but you would already know that.

　　诸多交往手段中，可能最不容易误解的就是身体接触了。简单一例，如果你约会的男朋友回避跟你牵手或者不愿意搂你，那么他要么是对你不感冒，要么是对你俩的关系不确定。当然，他仍然可能是因为害羞，不过真如此的话你也早该心里有数了。

　　If someone you have been dating for a while begins to exhibit changes in their level of eye contact, body posture, attention to you, availability and/or becomes restless or less communicative, pay attention. Their feelings have shifted. Be careful not to be too quick to explain it away. More than one occurrence should set off your silent alarm. Make sure that what they say matches what they don't say.

　　如果你察觉到你的那个他/她有所变化，比如在眼神交流、体态动作、对你的关注、陪你的时间、耐性或者是沟通技巧方面出现异常，那就要注意了，他们对你的好感可能有转变。不要着急对一种异常下结论，如果以上现象出现两个以上，那你可要注意防范他/她变心走人了。所以，观察的要点是言行一致，表里如一，双管齐下，双重考量。