30岁来临时悟出的人生30个道理(下)

16. We sometimes do things that are permanently foolish just because we are temporarily upset.  A lot of heartache can be avoided if you learn to control your emotions.  暂时的心烦意乱可能干出永久性傻事。学会控制情绪可以避免许多伤心之痛。

17. Someone else doesn't have to be wrong for you to be right.  There are many roads to what's right.  You cannot judge others by your own past.  They are living a different life than you.  What might be good for one person may not be good for another.  What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better.  You have to allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.  不要自以为是，认为别人是错误的。成功的路千万条，不能拿自己的过去评判他人。人家与你的生活处境不一样。对你来说的好事对别人来说不见得好，对你来说的坏事或许能让另一个人的生活改观。应当允许他人犯他们自己的错误做他们自己的选择。

18. Nobody is perfect, and nobody deserves to be perfect.  Nobody has it easy.  You never know what people are going through.  Every one of us has issues.  So don't belittle yourself or anyone else.  Everybody is fighting their own unique war.  人无完人，人也不该做完人，那对谁来说都不容易。你体会不到别人是怎么熬过来的。各人都有各人的问题，所以不要小看自己和任何一个人。每个人都在打他们自己那场战争。

19. A smile doesn't always mean a person is happy.  Sometimes it simply means they are strong enough to face their problems.  微笑并不总是代表快乐，有时它只代表我们足够强大去正视困难。

20. The happiest people I know keep an open mind to new ideas and ventures, use their leisure time as a means of mental development, and love good music, good books, good pictures, good company and good conversation.  And oftentimes they are also the cause of happiness in others—me in particular.  我认识的最快乐的人，都对新观点新事物持有开放的心态，业余时间用来发展心智，热爱好书，优美的音乐、绘画，好朋友和有趣的谈话。通常他们也是其他人快乐的源泉——尤其是对我来说。

21. You can't take things too personally.  Rarely do people do things because of you.  They do things because of them. 为人处世不要太“各色”。人们很少会从你的角度、而是从他们自己的角度行事。

22. Feelings change, people change, and time keeps rolling.  You can hold on to past mistakes or you can create your own happiness.  A smile is a choice, not a miracle.  True happiness comes from within.  Don't make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy.  感情会变，人会变，时间滚滚向前。你要么纠结于从前的错误，要么打造自己的幸福。微笑不是奇迹，而是一种选择。真正的幸福源自内心。不要误以为可以坐等什么人、什么事带给自己幸福。

23. It's much harder to change the length of your life than it is to change the depth of it.  改变生命的深度，要比改变生命的长度容易得多。

24. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.  你后悔“没做”的事，会远远多于“做过”的事。

25. When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you.  一旦你停止追逐错误的东西，就给正确的东西一个追上你的机会。

26. One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that's trying to make you like everyone else.  人生最大的挑战，是在一个力求让你变得跟众人一样的世界上做你自己。

27. Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.  Read The Book of Awesome.  享受一些小事情，有一天你回过头，会发现它们都是大事情。读一下《The book of Awesome》这本书。

28. Anyone can make a difference.  Making one person smile can change the world, maybe not the whole world, but their world.  每个人都能发挥作用。令他人微笑就能改变世界，也许不是整个世界，但却是他们的世界。

29. Everything is a life lesson.  Everyone you meet, everything you encounter, etc.  They're all part of the learning experience we call 'life.'  Never forget to acknowledge the lesson, especially when things don't go your way.  If you don't get a job that you wanted or a relationship doesn't work, it only means something better is out there waiting.  And the lesson you just learned is the first step towards it.  一切都是生命的教程，你碰到的每个人，遭遇的每件事……它们都是人生经验的一部分。千万不要忽略这些课程，特别是事情不顺的时候。倘若你没得到期望中的工作，或者跟某人的关系搞砸了，那仅仅意味着某种更好的东西就在那里等待，你刚刚学会的一课就是朝它迈出第一步。

30. Regardless of how filthy your past has been, your future is still spotless. Don't start your day with the broken pieces of yesterday. Every day is a fresh start. Each day is a new beginning.  Every morning we wake up is the first day of the rest of our life. 无论你的过去多么糟糕，未来仍然是纤尘不染。不要让昨日的碎片开启新的一天，要让每一天都成为一个新的开始。每天早晨我们醒过来，都是余生的第一天。