爱生活爱自己：9种方式今天对自己好一点

Being kind to yourself in everyday life is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Life will become lighter and your relationships will most likely improve. You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will go up.
日常生活里，善待自己是你能为自己做的最好的事情之一。生活会变得更轻松，人际关系会得到改善，整个人也会更加幸福。你也会更加自信，更能感觉到生活的美好。

To make positive change with that simply start a new habit today. One of kindness towards yourself. You can find 9 such habits of self-kindness below.
积极地改变自己，以此为开始，每天培养一个新的习惯。这也是善待自己的一种方式。下文中你可以找到9种善待自己的习惯。

1. Invest in yourself.
为自身投资

Spend 30-60 minutes in the morning or evening with reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to understand yourself and the world or that helps you to live a better life. Then, if possible, take one small action on what you have learned.
每天早晚花上30-60分钟时间读、听或看一些东西，这些能帮助你提高自己、帮助你更好的理解自己和这个世界，帮助你过上更好的生活。之后你要尽可能学以致用，哪怕是很小的部分也可以。

2. Find the truth and exception when an inner critic or outer critic attacks.
当自我否定和外部批评来袭时，找出事实和例外

Your own inner critic may not always say nice things about you to you. People around you may attack you or try to bring you down to serve one of their own needs. If you or someone else does this, ask yourself: what is the exception to this?
内心对于自己的评价可能并不总是积极正面的。你周围的人，也会出于自身的某种需要而攻击你或试图将你打倒。如果你或者别人这样做了，问问自己：是不是有什么例外？

3. Set a low bar for happiness.
降低幸福标准

Wake up in the morning. Relax for a minute. Tell yourself: “Today I will set a low bar for happiness”.
早晨醒来之后，先放松一下，然后告诉自己：“今天我会降低幸福的标准。”

The small things or what may be something one takes for granted becomes something I now often pause for a moment or two to take in and appreciate. This approach to the day makes life lighter, more joyful and it becomes easier to keep the motivation up.
那些生活中一些别人觉得理所当然的东西，我常常会为此停留片刻并驻足欣赏。这会使生活更加轻松愉快，更容易保持激情。

4. Unstress tonight.
今晚无压力

Take a long bath and read something to escape. Or talk to someone about something that is on your mind and let it all out. Set aside 30 minutes or more and be kind to your body and mind by letting the tensions and stress out.
泡一个舒服的热水澡，读一些暂时能让自己逃避现实的东西，找个朋友聊聊天，将一直憋在心中的烦恼全部释放出去。预留出30分钟或更多的时间，善待自己的身体和心灵，让紧张和压力远离自己。