社交魅力课堂:7个好习惯让你更有魅力

Imagine there's a string running from your navel, through your head and up into the ceiling. It's an old dancer's trick, and works for the rest of us to maintain great posture throughout the day. Good posture makes you appear secure and confident; if you're not feeling that confident today, fake it until you make it! Remember to keep your shoulders down.
想象一下，从你的头沿着背部到天花板，一直有根棍子在支撑着。这是舞者训练的老方法，也可以帮助我们来纠正自己的站姿。好的站姿让你更加自信，如果今天感觉底气不足，那么就站直了直到你成功！当然千万不要耸肩哦。

5.Spread Praise & Phrase
5.不吝惜赞美

Ever hear "it's not what you say, but how you say it?" If you have to critique someone, before you do, think of how you would want to be critiqued. Be direct and address the problem at hand, propose a solution, get feedback and establish a timeframe. At the same time, give credit & compliments where they are due. Building confidence in yourself is important, but being able to build confidence in others – that's charisma.
听没听过"你说什么不重要，重要的是你用什么方式说"这句话？所以当你批评什么人之前，想象你自己是否能接受这样的批评。你应该事先直接指出问题，提出解决方案，给予一定的回馈然后确定一个时间表。同时要不断给予他们信心和赞美。自信很重要，但是给予别人信心——这就是魅力所在了。

6.Remember Names
6.记住别人的名字

A legendarily successful writer known as "Mr. Charisma" himself, once said that "a person's name is to him or her the sweetest and most important sound in any language." It's simple but effective. When you first learn someone's name, repeat it back to them by saying "Hi Amanda" or "It's a pleasure to meet you Amanda." Also use their name when you end the conversation, it'll help immensely. You can also visualize the person's name on their forehead, or associate that person's name with a facial feature, like "Joe's Eyebrows." If all else fails, after meeting someone new, type their name into your phone with a short descriptive word.
被称为"魅力先生"的传奇成功作家戴尔卡耐基曾说过："无论在什么语言中，对于一个人来说，他的名字永远是最好听和最重要的。" 这个道理很简单，但也很有用。当你第一次知道别人的名字，就立即重复他们的名字给予反馈，比如说"你好，阿曼达"，或者"认识你真高兴，阿曼达。" 同时，在结束对话时也要提及对方的名字，这会帮大忙。你也可以用名字形容他们的长相或者他们的面部表情。比如 "乔的眉毛"。如果这都不管用，在认识新朋友之后，把他们的名字简写存进你的手机里。

7.Eye Contact
7.眼神交流

Make eye contact while a person is talking to you, and while you are speaking to them. Eye contact is one of the most important aspects of communication – it allows you to really see if your message is getting through. It keeps the other person focused on you, and keeps you focused on their words and meaning. If you're making a presentation or speech, make eye contact once with as many people in the room as possible. It will make the whole event feel much more personal to your audience.
和别人和交流的时候别忘了眼神交流。眼神交流是交际里的重要部分——可以让你明确信息是否已经被传递。也让其他人把焦点集中在你身上，还可以让你去集中精力理解他们的话语和含义。如果你在准备一个演讲或讲演，尽量和室内的人进行眼神交流。这会让你的听众与你的距离拉近。