年近三十遭遇社交危机 我还有机会认识新朋友吗？

The intensity of the friendships of my youth was borne of a lack of baggage and an abundance of time. You have greater emotional reserves when you make those friendships and when they fail, you bounce back, get back out there and try again. For most people, that resilience leaches away over the years.
我年轻时的结交友谊通常非常亲密，这是因为没有负担并、也拥有大量的时间。当你在交友时你拥有较多的情感储备；当友谊失败时你会卷土重来，回到原地并重新尝试。对于大多数人而言，这种弹性随着时间的流逝慢慢消失。

I look at my parents and their friends: my dad has had the same friends pretty much all his life. These friendships continued across marriages, deaths and continental moves. My mother is the opposite: she has one solid childhood friend – who we call "auntie" even though we share no blood – but still manages to form friendships: deep, intense and emotional. The cost of such bright-blazing friendships is that they are often short-lived and excised from the record as soon as they end. I find the thought exhausting, even as I admire her way of flinging herself out there time after time.
我也观察了我父母和他们的朋友之间的关系：我爸爸一生中的朋友基本不变。这些友谊见证了他们的婚姻、死亡和搬迁。我妈恰好相反：她只有一个稳定的童年朋友，我们叫她“阿姨”，虽然我们之间并没有血缘关系。妈妈仍在不断地和他人建立友谊：那种深刻的、亲密的和恳切的友谊。这样炙热友谊的代价是它们通常时间较短，当友谊结束时不久就会忘记。我发现这种方式让人精疲力尽，我甚至很佩服她能一次又一次地投入情感。

The friendships that have lasted for me are more considered and meaningful. I made my two closest friends at university more than a decade ago, when we would loll in the student union pub for most of the day, eating chips and ogling boys. We all live in different cities now, two are coupled up and one has two children, so it's hard to find the time to see one other very often. Our bond is still strong, but we are also more realistic about our expectations.
对我而言，能持续下来的友谊都是经过深思熟虑并富有意义的。十多年前，我在大学里交了两个最好的朋友，那时我们成天懒洋洋地待在学生会的酒吧里，吃着薯片，和男孩们眉目传情。现在我们三个生活在不同的城市里，其中两个人结婚了，还有一个有两个孩子了，所以很难找时间见面。我们之间的感情依然深厚，但是我们的期望也更加现实。

I have made friends online – people who started out as anonymous witty sentences on a comment thread – who have gone on to become a part of my "real life". Nobody's perfect, but we all draw the line on the things we will and will not put up with. The friendships that last are the ones where you both recognise that you have a good thing going. Getting older might mean you don't make that many new friends, but maybe that's a good thing. The payoff is that you treat them with more care.
我交过网友，在评论贴下留下幽默诙谐的语句慢慢成为我“真实生活” 的一部分。没有人是完美的 ，但是我们都会在能忍受和不能忍受的事情中间画上界限。能够持久的友谊，是双方都意识到继续交往下去会感觉不错。年级变大可能意味着不能结交很多新朋友，但这也许是件好事。这样你会更加关心你的老朋友。

And why the mad rush to make all these friends in later life? "Friends: One to three is sufficient." Good advice.
为什么要急着去交以后生活中的朋友呢？“朋友：一到三个足矣。” 这个说法真不错。