回首2012:2012年我们犯下的12个错误

7. You let little bits of stress consume you.
7. 压力一点点地消耗着你。

Don’t get stuck on the one thing that ruins your day. Don’t waste your time on one unhappy thought. If one window of happiness closes, run to the next window, or break through a wall. A dose of stress is a great entry point for you to pick up your head and say, “I’m only going to go through this once. I’ve got to figure out how to live my life in a positive and joyful way.” You must learn to let it go.
不要太过拘泥于一件事上，让它把你的一天都毁掉了。不要把时间浪费在不开心的思想上。如果通往快乐的一扇窗户关闭了，跑到下一扇窗前，或打破一堵墙。面对压力，你应该抬起头来说：“我只想经历这一次。我得想出来如何积极快乐的生活。” 你必须学会放手。

 

 

 

8. You let the same people drain you over and over again.
8. 让同样的人一次又一次地榨干你。

People inspire you, or they drain you; choose them wisely. Don’t lose your dignity and self-respect trying to make someone accept, love and appreciate you when they have proven that they are incapable of doing so. If someone or something in life is meant for you, you will still have to work for it, but you won’t have to beg for it. You will never have to sacrifice your dignity for your destiny.
有的人能激励你，有的人能榨干你；要聪明地进行选择。在想让他人接受、爱或欣赏你时，不要丢掉自己的自尊、自敬，因为有些人无论你怎么做，他们都不会改变对你的态度。如果有些人或有些事对你来说很重要，你仍要去争取，但是不能去乞求。永远也不要牺牲自己的尊严来换取命运。

9. You set unrealistic expectations.
9. 你设立了不现实的期望。

There are always two ways to be happier: improve your reality, or lower your expectations. We’re wired to expect the world to be brighter and more meaningful and more obviously interesting than it actually is. And when we realize that it isn’t, we start looking around for the real world. But this is the real world, and it’s actually a beautiful place to be. We are our own worst enemies for expecting otherwise. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself, others and the world around you, you may find the happiness that has always eluded you.
总有两种方法会让你更加开心：改善现实或降低希望。我们天生就希望世界会更明亮、更有意义，比现实更有趣。当我们意识到现实并不像期望的那么好时，我们开始四处寻找真实的世界。但是实际上我们现实的世界是非常美丽的地方。在期待时，我们是自己最大的敌人。如果你能学会停止期望你自己、他人、身边的世界上出现那不可能的完美，你会发现快乐总是环绕在你周围。

10. You overlooked the beauty of small moments.
10. 你忽略了生活中美丽的小瞬间。

Whatever you’re waiting for – peace of mind, contentment, grace, an inner awareness of abundance – it will surely come to you, but only when you’re ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart. So be as grateful as possible, for small things, not just for big things… for the simple act of breathing, the time together, the conversations, etc. Every moment counts. Every second matters. Whatever is given is a gift.
无论你在期待什么，平静的心情、满足感、优雅、丰富的内在，这些都会来的，但是只会当你准备好以开放和感激的心情接受时才会到来。所以尽可能的心存感激吧，为生活中的小事，而不仅仅是因为大事……为像呼吸、在一起度过时光、谈话等这样简单的行为而心存感激吧。每个时刻、每一秒都很重要。你所收到的都是礼物。

 

 

 

11. You didn’t focus enough energy inward.
11. 你没有足够关注内心的能量。

Even when you’re with others, you’re still with yourself. When you wake up in the morning, you’re with yourself, laying in bed at night you’re with yourself, walking down the street at noon you’re with yourself. What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? It’s your responsibility to be the person you want to be with.
即使和他人在一起，你仍然和你自己在一起。当你在早晨起床时，你和自己在一起，当晚上你躺着床上时，你和自己在一起，当你中午在街上走路时，你和自己在一起。当你走在大街上，你想和什么样的人在一起？当你起床时，你想和什么样的人在一起？在你入睡前，你想和什么样的人在一起？成为你想成为的人，是你自己的责任。

12. You were hoping to make fewer mistakes.
12. 你希望少犯些错误。

You aren’t really free until you give yourself the freedom to make mistakes. Liberate yourself! Try new things, learn and explore freely. Your good judgment comes from life experience, and life experience comes from your bad judgments of the past. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment and defeat are the tools life uses to show you the way.
直到你能允许自己犯错时，你才能得到真正的自由。解放自己！尝试新的事物，自由地学习和探索。良好的判断来自于经验，而生活经验来自于过去你所做的错误判断。你需要有足够的勇气去犯错。失望和失败是生活用来磨砺你的工具。

And remember, all your mistakes from this past year are now just lessons learned. Appreciate what you’ve learned, absorb the energy and possibility of today, and look forward to the year ahead.
记住，过去的一年你所犯过的错误现在对你来说是学到的教训。欣赏你所学到的，吸收今天的能量和潜力，期待着新一年的到来吧。