带你发现最好的自己：记得常问自己的10个问题

You will never be flawless. You will never be faultless. Acknowledge your flaws and faults and accept them. Let the difference between your flaws and the flaws of others be that you have accepted their existence and moved past them, while others are hopelessly trying to hide them. Let the difference between your faults and the faults of others be that you have addressed them and learned from them, while others are still living in denial.
人无完人，你不可能不犯错。了解自己的缺点和不足，要接受自己和别人缺点的存在，然后坦然面对，尽管别人有可能努力地隐藏这些缺点；要从自己和别人的缺点中学到些什么，即使别人仍然活在抵制的情绪里。

Don’t fall victim to fabricated illusions. Don’t hide from reality. Face your deficiencies and use them to bask in the glory of your personal growth.
别成为幻想的牺牲品，别逃避现实。正视自己的不足，让它们沐浴在成长过程中的光芒下。

7. What issues do you need to resolve with yourself?
如何学会独处？

When you feel lonely you look around for someone to fill the void in your life. You assume that your loneliness stems exclusively from being alone. But once you find company, it doesn’t take long before you realize that there’s still a void in your life. You still feel lonely and unfulfilled, so you blame it on your company and you move on to someone else… and then someone else. This cycle perpetuates for months, or even years, until you are eventually ready to face the truth.
感到孤独的时候总会找人来填补这份空白。你以为这份孤独来自于一个人的孤单，但一旦找到了同伴，似乎生活的空白还在那，你仍然觉得孤独不满足。你把这些归结在自己的同伴身上，然后抽身去寻找下一个......再下一个。这样的循环会持续几个月甚至几年，直到你自己真正面对了事实。

The truth is, a partner, or even just a friend, can add lots of beauty to your life, but they can’t fill a void that exists within you. You alone are responsible for you own fulfillment. If you feel desperately lonely when you’re alone, it means you’re in bad company. It means you need to work on your relationship with yourself first. To believe otherwise is to delude your mind and perpetuate your loneliness as you hop from one failed relationship to the next.
事实就是，生活中的伴侣或只是朋友，只能为你的生活添加色彩，却无法填补你生活中的空白。你自己要对填补空缺负责。当一个人的时候，如果你觉得极度空虚，就说明你自己本身就很糟糕，意味着你需要从自己开始好好架构一下人际关系。否则，你只会不断的从一段失败的关系跳到另外一段，可是空虚寂寞呢，还会一直存在着。

8. How are you burdening yourself?
自己该如何负担？

If you feel like your back is breaking from the weight your mind is carrying, perhaps it’s time to lighten the load you carry. There are many burdens you can easily let go of if you’re willing.
如果你觉得后背快支持不住自己的大脑了，那是时候减轻一下自己的压力重担了。只要你愿意，下面这些是你可以轻易摆脱的负担。

Start by leaving your worries behind you; worries only fill your mind with negativity. Instead take constructive action – get involved in something worthwhile that takes your mind off of things. Grudges and resentments simply suck energy and time away from you without any positive return. Once you’ve gotten this far, it’s time to stop pretending like you know everything. And before you wrap things up, let go of your impatience. Two of the most vital virtues of your personal growth will be your patience to wait for the right moment and your courage to make the best of it.
别再让担忧困扰着你，担心只会让思绪消极下去。不妨来点有建设性的行动：做那些真正值得的事情，可以把脑海中的消极情绪赶出去。怨恨只会耗费精力时间，不会给你带来任何好处。一旦丢掉了怨恨，接下来就不要再装着自己懂得任何事情啦。处理事情之前别不耐烦。成长过程中最重要的两大财富，莫过于等到合适时机的耐心以及好好利用时机的勇气。

As you can see, dropping burdensome negativity from your life is fairly easy once you realize how much of it you’re carrying around with you. Do yourself a favor today and lighten your load.
看吧，只要你意识到到底负担了些什么，丢到这些生活中消极的包袱是如此简单。现在就丢掉这些包袱轻装上路吧。

9. How have you celebrated your progress lately?
最近你是如何庆祝自己的进步的？

Focus on the progress you’ve made, on the next positive step, on the silver lining between where you once were, where you are now, and where you’re headed. Do not think of yesterday’s failures, but of the success that is possible today.
关心你的一切进步，下个积极步伐，过去和现在自己之间的差距以及目的地。别再想过去的失败了，成功只会在今天发生。

Be proud of yourself. The fact that you’re trying is immensely impressive. You have conquered complacency. You are crushing your fears with every new effort you put forth. You aren’t where you want to be yet, but you’re making progress. Step by step will get you there. Even if you feel like you’re running in place, you aren’t. No effort that you make to attain something worthwhile is ever lost. It doesn’t matter how slow you go as long as you don’t give up.
为自己骄傲。你正在做的事让人印象深刻，你已经有了满足感。每次新的付出都是对自己恐惧的最好反击。虽然没有到达目标，但你在不断进步着。一步一步的迈进成功。即使你觉得走错了轨道，其实没有。如果不付出努力，那些值得的事情也只会与你失之交臂。只要不放弃，进步再怎么缓慢都没有关系。

10. What do you love about your life?
你爱生活的哪些地方？

Life is a series of highs and lows. There will be times when bad things happen. When these times strike, it’s important to keep things in perspective. How you respond to life’s inevitable difficulties defines the strength and growth of your character, as well as the quality of your life. The idea that you are a victim of any particular circumstance is simply inaccurate.
生活充满了高潮和低谷。总有些时候坏事接踵而来。到了此刻，多方位的看待问题非常重要。如何对生活中不可避免的困难进行回应也反映出你的人格魅力和成长以及你的生活质量。那种觉得自己人生充满悲剧的想法，真的是错误的哦。

The fleeting ups and downs that occur on a daily basis are tiny threads in the overall fabric of your life. Each one adds to your personal growth. The quality of your life is ultimately your choice. You can choose to be immobilized by the gravity of your disappointments, or you can choose to rise from the suffering and treasure the most precious gift you have – life itself.
日常生活里的高低起伏在生活的长河里不过是小风小浪罢了，每个都能促进你的成长。生活的质量最终来自于你的选择。你可以选择被这些失望打败，抑或选择从这些困难中崛起。毕竟这些都是生活本身带给你的最宝贵的财富。