婚姻亮红灯时你犯傻了吗？情感专家非常规作战保卫爱情

Talking about the problems in a marriage doesn't resolve them; it makes them worse. It leads to arguments and bad will. Besides, you'll never talk yourself out of a problem that you behaved yourself into. Marriages change because people change. Say little; do much. Speak in the vocabulary of your actions. New choices resolve marital problems; discussions don't.
每次都咬着你们间的问题说啊说，本以为可以解决问题，其实呢，只能搞得更糟糕，结果就是吵架负气。另外，在谈论你们之间的问题的时候你永远都觉得自己有理。婚姻中的变数很多是因为人的变化。所以呢，少说多做。说也只说你会为挽救你们的婚姻关系怎么去做，行动可以拯救婚姻，光凭嘴巴说是解决不了问题的。

Don't think marriage counseling is the answer
婚姻顾问不是你们的救命稻草

Marriage counseling does not work in most situations. The success rate is dismal. Most couples report being worse off after marriage counseling. They talked and talked, but never received tangible practical advice that was simple to understand and easy to implement.
婚姻顾问在很多时候都是不管用的。成功案例少之又少。很多夫妻在接受婚姻顾问帮助以后关系更差。在婚姻顾问的引导下，夫妻两各自倾诉，然而到最后也找不到一条可行的方法去解决问题

Don't talk to family or friends about your situation.
不要向家人或朋友谈论你的婚姻问题

One of the most important values in a marriage is privacy; therefore, it's a mistake to talk about your marriage or your spouse to family or friends. It's a violation of your spouse's privacy and it's wrong.
在婚姻中有一点很重要，就是你们的隐私，所以不要向你的家人以及朋友谈及你和你爱人之间的问题。如果你这样做等于不尊重你爱人的隐私，这可是大错特错。