不要不服,细数找不到伴侣的5个理由

4. You've been single a long time and are set in your ways
你单身太久，已经习惯了自己的生活方式

The longer you live as a single person, the more independent and self-sufficient you're forced to become. While this is not necessarily a bad thing, if taken to the extreme, it can hinder your efforts to find a mate. If you're used to doing everything yourself and for yourself only, it may be very difficult to let someone else into your life even though you may crave that closeness.
你单身的时间越久，你就迫使自己变得越独立、越靠自己。这并不是坏事，但如果走向极端，会阻碍你找到另一半。如果你习惯了凡事亲力亲为，而且只为自己而做，也许就很难让另一个人走进你的生活，哪怕你也许渴望这种亲密。

Unfortunately, this becomes more and more true as we get older. I'm pretty set in my ways myself and all I can hope for is that if the right one does come along, that I will let him break through my wall of independence that I have created。
不幸的是，随着我们渐渐长大，事情就越是如此。我已经非常习惯按自己的方式生活，我唯一能期望的是，如果那个对的人真的出现了，我会允许他打破我已经建立起来的这座独立的墙。