积极点！10种你应该避免的危险想法

Everyone makes mistakes. No matter what wrong you feel you have done to a person, agonizing over a past event that cannot be undone will not make the situation better (and will make you feel a lot worse). Whether you ate something you know you shouldn’t have, said something hurtful that you wish you could take back or made a mistake on the job, don’t live in the past. If you apologized and explained yourself, then it is time to move on. Focus your energy to the future because that’s where progress happens.
人人都会犯错。不管你觉得自己如何对不起某人，为了过去的事而一味自责也无济于事，甚至还会让你更愧疚。不论是吃了不该吃的东西、说了不该说的狠话，还是犯了不该犯的工作错误，既然事情已经过去，就不要再耿耿于怀。如果你已经作了道歉和解释，那就让它过去吧。把精力投入到未来，那才是进步的开始。

7. “What will they think about me?”
“别人会怎么看我啊？”

While you should do everything you can to make people around you comfortable, you shouldn’t sacrifice your genuine personality in order to please other people. Embrace your authentic self and share it with the world. If a person doesn’t like you for who you are, that is their problem (and their loss).
虽然你应该尽量与周围的人融洽相处，但也不必为了讨好别人而委屈自己的本性。请拥抱本真自我、向他人展现真我吧。如果别人不喜欢本真的你，那也是他们的问题和损失。

8. “I’ll do it when the time is right.”
“等时机适合我就去做。”

There is no such thing as a “perfect time” to do anything. If you keep waiting for the right time to move to a new town, talk to that cute bartender or begin a new fitness plan, you will never take action. Challenge yourself to burst out of your comfort zone. I know comfort makes you feel safe, but how fulfilling is it to spend your life thinking about doing things that you never actually do? Act now or regret it later.
世上根本就没有所谓的“完美时机”。如果你继续等待完美时机再搬往新城市、跟吧台招待聊两句或开始健身新计划，那你永远也不会采取行动。给自己一点挑战，走出舒适区吧。虽然舒适区让你感到安全，但整天只空想不曾做过的事又有什么意义呢？

9. “I wish I could look more like _____.”
“我希望看上更……”

Please understand that when you see scantily clad models in magazines, you are looking at doctored up images of people who most likely have put themselves through incredibly restrictive diets and/or excessive fitness routines in the weeks or months leading up to their photo-shoot. In other words, such a body would not be attainable for the average person. Accept your body as it is. Aim to improve your physique, but stop comparing it to other people with figures that are out-of-reach.
你要知道，那些你羡慕的苗条杂志模特说不定是整了容、为了上照而不得不忍受严格节食或进行数周数月健身的人。换句话说，普通人是不可能拥有那种身材的。接受自己的身体，努力锻炼体型，但不要跟那些遥不可及的人攀比。

10. “No one cares.”
“没人会在乎。”

Yes, they do. Even if you’re not on the best terms with your family, I can’t imagine that they don’t care about you. And even if you’ve lost touch with a lot of your friends, I bet they would be happy to hear your voice in a surprise phone-call. You have impacted more lives than you could begin to comprehend. Send an e-mail or write a letter to an old friend that you haven’t talked to in months or years. Call an aunt, uncle or cousin who made a positive impact on your development as a child. Join an online support community, message board or networking group of like-minded people who could become new friends. You are not alone– you are far from it. If you just moved to a new home, you might want to check out this article about how to make a bunch of friends in any new city.
不，有人在乎。哪怕你现在跟家人关系不甚融洽，我也不相信他们真的不在乎你。如果你已很久没有联系朋友，打个电话过去的话，我打赌他们会非常高兴能再次听到你的声音。你在他人心中的地位远远没你想得那么微不足道。给数月或几年未曾联络的老朋友发封邮件或写封书信吧。给孩提时曾积极引导自己的伯父伯母或表兄打个电话吧。加入网络互助联盟或信息群，结交一些志趣相投的新朋友吧。你并不是一个人——绝对不是！如果你刚搬到新家，那就参考这篇文章，学习如何在新城市认识新朋友吧。

The first step to a better life is to think better thoughts.
美好生活的第一步就是拥有积极思维。

I hope this list of dangerous thoughts was helpful. You can’t create a better life by the mere act of thinking about it, but it is a positive first step in the right direction.
我希望以上消极思维清单能有所帮助。美好生活不是单凭想象创造出来的，但积极想象却是迈向正确方向的第一步。