自信：老板在用的十种自信修习术

Gaining confidence can be a struggle. Women in particular struggle with confidence. They often are less adept at moving forward after setbacks, reading temporary failures as permanent deficiencies, and they often have smaller professional social safety nets than men.
获取自信有时候会很难。女性尤其会受到自信问题的困扰。她们在受到挫折后往往更不善于忘掉过去继续前行，她们会将自己暂时的失败解读为永远无法改变的缺陷，而且女性的职场社交完全网络通常也会比男性的范围狭窄。

The good news is that confidence can be learned, like any career skill. Here are 10 steps that can have you operating from a place of power:
幸好，自信就像职业技能一样可以后天习得。以下10个方法可以帮助你获得自信、晋升高层：

1. When in doubt, act.
1. 犹豫不决时，放手去做。

It's the difference between running and stagnant water. When you're stagnant, doubt and insecurities breed like mosquitoes. Dale Carnegie wrote that 'inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.' Fear of failure can paralyze us, as we almost always overestimate the consequences. Build your confidence instead by taking action, often.
这是流动的活水与一潭死水的区别。当你无所作为时，怀疑和不安全感会如蚊子一般滋生。戴尔-卡耐基曾写过这样一段话：“无为滋生疑虑和恐惧。行动孕育自信和勇气。”对失败的担心会让我们无法行动，因为我们几乎总是会将后果估计得过为严重。让我们通过采取行动来建立自信吧，经常为之，自信弥坚。

2. Do something outside your comfort zone each day.
2. 每天做一些超越自己舒适区的事情。

If we don't stretch our comfort zones, they shrink. Constantly challenge and improve yourself, and you'll become comfortable doing new things-and you will establish your identity (both to yourself and others) as someone who takes risks. Each new thing you try adds to your knowledge and skill base, and provides you with a foundation of competence. This is the bedrock of any successful career.
如果我们不主动拓展我们的舒适区，那么它会变得越来越狭窄。经常挑战并改善自己，你在接触新鲜事物时就会变得更自如，而且这样你将为自己打造出一个勇于承担风险的形象（这个形象存在于你自己的心目中，也存在于他人眼中）。每一件你尝试过的新鲜事物都会为你的知识和技能基础库增添内容，成为你能力的基础源泉。这是任何一个成功职业生涯所必备的基石。

3. Put the focus on others.
3. 多关心他人。

Choose to be conscious of others instead of self-conscious. Ask people questions. Turn conversations into a game where you try to find a connection with the other person. Give compliments generously, and volunteer to help others when you can. Looking for the best in others will help you see it in yourself.
选择关注他人，而非只关心自己。多向他人提问。将对话变成一场游戏，你可以从中试图找到与对方的联系。毫不吝啬地赞美他人，并在力所能及时主动提供帮助。总是去寻找别人的长处，这会帮助你找到自己的优点。

4. Cultivate mentors.
4. 结交良师益友。

Their advice and connections are invaluable, plus you will make better decisions about opportunities thanks to their objective assessments of the pros and cons. And you will be much more willing to take risks knowing you have supporters who will help you get back up on your feet if you fail.
来自这些人的建议以及与他们的交往是无价之宝，此外，借助他们对于优缺点的客观评价，你能够在机遇面前做出更好的决策。而且，一旦知道自己在摔倒时会有支持者愿意伸出援手来拉你一把，你便会更愿意承担风险。

5. Keep self-talk positive.
5. 同自我对话时，保持积极态度。

It's hard to feel confident if someone puts you down all the time. It's impossible if that naysayer is you. Watch how you talk to yourself. Is it how you would talk to a friend? If not, then make a change.
如果有人总在打击你，你很难会感到自信。而如果这个打击者是你自己，那么实现自信根本是不可能的。小心对待你与自己的对话。你与朋友对话时也会用同样的方式吗？如果不是，那么就改变一下与自己对话的方式吧。