社交课堂：人人必备的12个社交技能

There are many books on the market that can help you learn specific social skills and ways to start conversations. However, keep in mind that reading about these skills won’t make you an expert. You’ll need to practice them over and over again.
市场上有许多书籍能帮助你学习具体社交技能，和如何开始进行对话的方法。不过，记住读这类技能方面的书籍并不会使你变成一名专家。需要你反复练习才能掌握这些技能。

8. Practice Good Manners
养成良好礼仪

Good manners go a long way in improving social skills. Practice being polite, showing gratitude, and using good table manners.
良好的礼仪对提高社交技能大有帮助。要表现得礼貌、常表达感激之情并表现良好的餐桌礼仪。

9. Pay Attention to Your Body Language
注意你的肢体语言

Non-verbal communication is very important. Pay attention to the type of body language you use. Try to appear relaxed, make appropriate amounts of eye contact, and appear open to conversation.
非口头的沟通交流很重要。注意你所使用的肢体语言。试着表现出轻松的状态，适当做眼神接触交流，并对对话内容表现出敞开心扉的状态。

10. Join a Social Skills Support Group
加入一个社交技能支持小组

Many communities offer social skill support groups. Support groups help people who feel shy, awkward, or extremely anxious in social situations learn and practice new skills. You’ll start improving social skills and may be able to make new friends who understand your difficulties.
许多社区都提供社交技能支持小组。小组帮助那些在社交场合感到害羞、尴尬或非常焦虑的人学习和练习新技能。你的社交技能会开始逐步提高，可以结交到那些理解你遇到的社交困难的新朋友。

11. Stay Up to Date on Current Events
了解最新时事

Read up on current trends and news stories so you have something to talk about with people. Try to avoid anything that is too controversial, such as politics, but do talk about other news stories that may be of interest. It can be a great way to start a conversation and can help you stick to neutral subjects.
阅读当下流行趋势和新闻故事，这样你和大家就会有可谈论的话题。试着避开太过冲突的话题，例如政治话题，但可以谈论可能引起大家很多人兴趣的新闻故事，新闻话题是开始对话的好方式，因为可以聊一些中性话题。

12. Identify and Replace Negative Thoughts
意识到自己的消极想法，改正掉

If you have a lot of negative thoughts about your social interactions, it could become a self-fulfilling prophecy. For example, a person who thinks, “I’m really awkward and I will embarrass myself,” may sit in the corner at a party. As a result, he may leave the party thinking that he must be really awkward because no one talked to him.
如果你对社交沟通交流有很多消极想法，可能会成为一种自我应验的预言。例如，有人认为，“我真的感到自己处于非常尴尬的境地，”会坐在聚会的某个角落。结果他会从聚会场合上离开，会一直觉得没人跟他说话，所以自己一定很尴尬。

Identify negative thoughts that are likely dragging you down. Replace them with more realistic thoughts, such as, “I can make conversation and I can meet new people.” Don’t allow yourself to dwell on thoughts that aren’t productive.
确定消极思想有可能在拖累着你，用更加现实的想法取代消极想法，例如，“我可以和别人对话我还可以与新认识的人见面。” 不许自己停留在无意义的思想中。