15大信号 在我们身边的都是好朋友

A good friend cares about the people close to them. If they don’t hear from you periodically, they pick up the phone or even send an email. “Dude, where you at? Everything okay?” This doesn’t mean they constantly worry about you, because sometimes people get sick or busy and life happens. But they do take the time to let you know they’re thinking about you.
好朋友会关心和他们亲近的人。如果他们隔了一段时间没有你的消息，他们会拿起电话，甚至会发送电子邮件。“老兄，你在哪里？一切还好吗？” 这并不是说他们会一直担心你，因为有时人们会生病或忙碌起来，生活就是这样。但是他们会拿出时间让你知道他们在想你。

9. Your friends know when to leave you alone
你的朋友知道什么时候该让你独处

Sometimes you just want (or need) to be left alone. Work assignments, homework, or relationship woes can all leave you feeling like you just need a little downtime to work out your situation. A good friend understands and respects this. They’ll make it clear that they’re available if and when you need them, but they also understand that everyone needs alone time once in a while. Conversely, they also know you well enough to say, “Enough’s enough!” and drag you out of the house by your hair if necessary!
有时，你就是想（或需要）独处。工作任务、一些重要活动前的准备工作或关系裂痕都会让你觉得需要时间来想出如何对自己的情况进行处理。好朋友会理解并尊重这一点。他们会让你知道，当你需要他们的时候，他们会在你身边，但是他们也明白，每个人时不时地都需要时间独处。另一方面，他们也非常了解你，知道何时说 “够了！” 并在需要时拉着你的头发把你拖出屋子。

10. You don’t feel like you always have to reciprocate
你觉得自己不用总想着回报

A good friendship doesn’t come with a balance sheet. While you should always try to give as good as you get from your friends, that doesn’t mean you or they should feel obligated every single time. The point of a friendship is to be there as much as you can, when you can, to the fullest extent you can. Sometimes that means Jim picks up the beer, while you bring the pretzels. Sometimes Josh throws the party and you pitch in with the cleanup. Sooner or later in a good friendship, the books will balance naturally and intuitively, without either side having to do anything except be themselves.
好的友谊并不需要资产负债表。虽然说朋友对你怎么好，你就应该对他们怎么好，但这也不是说你或他们每次都要那样做。友谊的一大要点就是当可以的时候，尽可能地地付出。有时意味着吉姆拿啤酒，而你带来椒盐脆饼。有时乔希开派对，而你负责打扫。在好的友谊中，这迟早会自然地达到平衡，除了做好自己，不需要做任何事情。

11. You can call your friends anytime you need them
任何时候，只要你需要就可以给朋友打电话

Let’s put some rules on “anytime.” This does not mean three in the morning, unless someone is dead! Within reason, however, and during the hours when you KNOW they’ll be awake, you can call and say, “Hey…you got a few minutes? I need an ear.” If they say, “Not now, but let me call you back,” then respect that. If they’re willing to sacrifice time to help you out, it’s only fair that they should be able to do it on their schedule, especially for those who have “real jobs.”
关于“任何时候”有一些要注意的问题。这并不是说早晨三点钟你就可以打电话，除非有人去世！然而，在合理的情况下，在你知道他们会醒着的时候，你可以打电话给他们，说，“嗯……有空吗？我需要人听我倾诉。”如果他们说，“现在不行，但是让我给你打回去吧，”那么就等电话吧。如果他们愿意抽出时间来帮助你，那最好是按照他们的时间表来做，尤其是对那些有份“真正工作”的人而言。

12. Your friends feel like they can call you when they need you
你的朋友觉得，当他们需要你的时候可以给你打电话

Part of being a good friend is being available, and this applies just as much to you as it does your friends. A friend who feels like you’re available for them when needed is more likely to be there for you when you need them!
成为好朋友的一部分内容就是可以抽出时间，这适用于你的朋友，同时也适用于你。如果朋友觉得他们需要你的时候你能抽出时间，那么很有可能当你需要他们的时候，他们也能为你抽出时间。

13. Your friends celebrate your victories and help you get over your setbacks
你的朋友为你庆祝胜利，并帮你克服困难

Milestones deserve to be celebrated, and misery loves company. A good friend will congratulate you on your accomplishments and achievements without letting you rest on your laurels. Similarly, a good friend won’t let you wallow in self-pity when things go a little sideways. A good friend will celebrate or commiserate with you as appropriate, always asking the question, “So what’s next?”
具有里程碑意义的事件值得和他人一起庆祝，当你悲惨的时候也需要有人陪伴。好朋友会庆祝你的成就，不会让你固步自封。同样，当事情变遭时，好朋友也不会让你独自啜泣。好朋友会恰当地和你庆祝或与你分忧，并总会问，“下一步呢？”

14. Your friends see you for who you are
你的朋友知道真实的你

We all wear masks and put on a show in our public lives, whether we choose to admit it or not. A good friend sees beyond the mask or the front and looks at the real person behind them. You can tell a good friend because they’re not afraid to call you out on your front, but they still want to be around you even when what’s behind it isn’t always the nicest, kindest, or best person. A good friend inspires you to be and do better than you are, but cares for you because of who and what you are.
无论我们承认与否，在我们的公共生活中，我们都会戴上面具，表演给人看。好朋友能看透面具后真正的你。 好朋友不怕当面大声叫你，即使是你不总是最友好、最善良、最好的人， 他们也还是想和你在一起。朋友会激励你，让你变得更好，并在乎真正的你。

15. Your friends tell you when you’re making a mistake
当你犯错的时候朋友会告诉你

No one likes to hear it when they screw up. That’s just human nature. However, a true friend is able to tell you you’re making a mistake without making a federal case of it. People who love you and support you even when they don’t necessarily agree with you are the kind of friends that are worth keeping, no matter where life takes you.
当人们把事情搞砸时都不想听别人说。这是人类的天性。然而，当你犯错时，真正的朋友能告诉你，让你不要犯大错。好朋友不一定同意你的观点，但他们仍会爱你、支持你。无论你的生活如何，这样的朋友都是最值得维系的。