情人节将至：关于真爱的10个事实

You can’t be in a loving relationship if you hold back. You can’t use love as a bargaining chip. Don’t tell your partner you love him only when he does something good around the house. Don’t give him the cold shoulder if he makes a mistake. You have to love him all the time, regardless of his words or actions, because true love is unconditional. If you give your partner this much love, you’ll get it‒and more!‒in return.
吝啬的人是无法开展一段关系的。你不能把爱当成是讨价还价的筹码。不要跟他说除非他做了什么事你才会爱他。不要在他犯错时冷眼相待。你要一如既往的爱他，不管他说了什么做了什么，真爱是无条件的。如果你对他付出了这些，那么你肯定会得到更多作为回报。

7. True love is based on friendship
真爱基于友谊

So many TV show relationships are based on friends who fall in love over time. It’s a great premise, and a nice daydream, but life isn’t TV. You don’t need to be best friends with your partner since kindergarten for love to last. But you need to be friends with your partner. You need to be able to talk, to share jokes, and to enjoy each others’ company. Over time, the physical passion may fade, but true friendship will last forever.
很多电视剧里爱情都是从朋友间产生的。这个起点很好，美好的白日梦，毕竟生活不是电视剧。你不需要和他从幼儿园就是好朋友再一路走下去直到相爱。但你的确需要跟另一半成为朋友。你需要时刻和他交谈，分享笑话，享受对方的陪伴。很多时候，身体激情也许会消退，但真正的友谊永流传。

8. True love lasts
真爱持续久

Think back to those casual relationships where your significant other wiping his nose on your bath towel was enough to end it. Those relationships are immature, and whatever you thought you experienced wasn’t love. When you’re truly in love, problems like this are just small bumps in the road. No problem seems insurmountable. You’re more than willing to work through anything, just to stay together.
想想那些因为用你洗澡毛巾擦脸就草草结束的恋爱吧。这些都是不成熟的，你的想法和经历都不叫爱情。当真正爱的时候，这些困难都只是小事而已。似乎没有什么困难不可逾越。你更乐意两个人一起，战胜一切。

9. True love is committed
真爱是坚定的

It’s human nature to be attracted to other people, to allow your head to be turned by an attractive passerby. Don’t let this make you feel guilty. As long as you’re committed to your partner, your relationship is fine. When you’re truly in love, you don’t want to be with anyone else. You can’t imagine spending your time without your sweetheart.
被其他人吸引是人的本性。要允许自己为美丽的路人扭个头看一眼。不用为此感到负罪。只要你对另一半是坚定地，这段感情就很坚定。真爱的时候，你不会想和其他人在一起。你无法忍受那些没有他的时光。

10. YOU are the love of your life
你才是生活里的真爱

Don’t forget that you need to love yourself. Self love is important, but it’s not something you should achieve and then throw away once you’re with your partner. You must stay in love with yourself for your entire life. If you start to dislike yourself or what you’re doing, you need to change just enough to stay on track, to stay true to yourself, and to stay in love with yourself.
别忘了你也需要爱自己。自爱十分重要，哪怕有了另一半也不能忘记好好爱自己。你必须一生与自己相爱。如果你开始讨厌自己或是自己做的事情，你需要改变一下步入正轨，对自己坦白，也要与自己相爱。