请坚强！灰心丧气时你可以做的11件事

Everyone deals with discouragement at some point in their life. It’s part of what makes the human experience rich—the highs and the lows. If we didn’t experience the lows, then we wouldn’t appreciate the highs.
每个人都有灰心丧气的时候。正是这段时光充实了我们的人生经历-高潮低谷。如果我们不经历低谷又怎么能达到人生高潮呢。

Discouragement, disappointment, failure, and setbacks—these are all things that can help us if we maintain an empowering mindset. The key to life is to learn from these experiences, and minimize the amount of time that we allow ourselves to stay discouraged. So the next time you start to feel discouragement, here is what you should do:
灰心，失望，失败和挫折-都是能帮助我们保持坚强心态的东西。生命的秘诀在于从这些经历中学习，减少我们持续萎靡灰心丧气的时间。所以下次觉得低落的时候，试着干干这些：

1. Take the long view
从长远的角度看

Discouragement generally occurs when our expectations (what we think should happen) don’t align with reality (what actually happens). In many cases our expectations are unrealistic, and this often has to do with how long we think things should happen. If we take a longer view, and relax our expectations a little, it can really help to decrease discouragement. The reality is that most things that are worthwhile take a lot of effort and time to come to fruition. So be patient!
当我们的期望（我们觉得应该发生的事情）没有变成现实（实际发生的事情），我们就会失望。在很多情况下，我们的期望都是不切实际的，这也和我们对时间的预估有着一定的关系。如果我们从长远去看，放低一下期望，也能有效减轻我们的失落感。事实是最值得我们付出努力和时间最重要的事情就是等着好结果。所以耐心点吧！

2. Remember, there is no such thing as failure. There is only education
记住！没有真正的失败，只是成长教育而已。

When we feel like we have failed at something, discouragement often follows. However, failure doesn’t really exist, except for the meaning that we give it. If we don’t get the result that we want, when we want it, we just need to take new action.
当认为我们在某些事失败之后，低落感也随之而来。然而，失败并不真正的存在，除非我们给事情赋予了失败的含义。如果我们没有及时得到想要的结果，只需要采取新的行动。与其把失败当成是一件坏事，

We can choose, instead of thinking of failure as bad, to think of failure as education, and therefore good. When we view it this way we realize that failure isn’t something that is bad, or something to be avoided. It is simply feedback. When we think this way we ease discouragement.
我们可以选择把失败看成是一种沉成长教育，一件好事。如果这样看待问题，我们就会知道失败并不是什么坏事或者需要尽力避免的事情。只是一个小挫折而已。这样想，低落感就能减轻啦。

3. Stay true to our vision. See it again in our mind
不抛弃理想，再做一次白日梦吧

If we are feeling discouraged, think about our vision. Think about what we want to create in our life. See it clearly. Feel what it would feel like if the image came into reality. What would this mean for us? How would we feel. Once we see it, and feel it, we will also feel empowered and our discouragement will dissipate.
感到沮丧的时候，想想自己的理想。想想我们想要获得些什么。仔细的去想，感受一下如果梦想成真会是什么感受。对我们会意味着什么？我们会有什么样的心情。一旦我们去幻想，去感受，就会感到充满了力量，沮丧也就烟消云散了。

4. Don’t let our ego get in the way of our development
不要让自负阻碍了自我的发展

Our ego is often the primary cause of our feelings of disappointment and discouragement. It doesn’t have to be this way. We can control our ego. When we do this, we are on the path of development. When we are internally strong enough to handle constructive criticism, and feedback, we receive the rewards of growth. Growth leads to happiness.
自负往往是造成失落感和沮丧的最主要缘由。其实并不一定要这样，我们可以控制自己。一旦控制了，我们就已经迈向了进步的阶梯。一旦我们真正有能力去面对处理那些批判、挫折，我们就会得到成长的礼物。成长的尽头是幸福。

5. Stop comparing ourself to others. We’re on a unique path
不要和别人比较，我们都是独一无二的

A sure fire, 100% guaranteed way to get discouraged is to focus on other people in a comparative way. Here is why: we generally see their victories, successes, and strengths. We see what they have and what we don’t. We see why they are better than us. When we do this we get discouraged and we feel sorry for ourselves. We don’t as easily see their struggles, their fears, their setbacks, and their failures.
毫无疑问，一直把自己和别人比较绝对会让我们低落。为什么呢：我们往往看到的都是他们的成果、成功和优点。我们看到的是他们有我们却没有的部分，我们看到的是为什么他们比我们优秀。一旦这样，我们就很容易感到失望为自己感到难受。同时，我们很少去关注他们的挣扎、害怕，挫折和失败。

So don’t do it. It isn’t empowering. Don’t compare. We are on a unique path. It is great to be inspired by another, but if by hearing another’s story, we feel that we are lesser, then we need to just focus on our own path.
所以不要这样了，这只会让你更加泄气。不要比较，我们都是独一无二的存在着。让别人去激励你固然好，但如果别人的故事让你觉得自身有所不足，那么只需要专注自己就好了。