如何找到“达西先生” 简．奥斯丁的恋爱指南

Pride and Prejudice begins with one of the most famous lines in English literature - 'It is a truth universally acknowledged that a young man in possession of a large fortune must be in want of a wife.'
《傲慢与偏见》一书的开场白是英语文学中最著名的句子之一：“一个单身男子，坐拥万贯家财，自然欲求妻室，此道理普世公认。”

Indeed he is! It seems that women like Mrs Bennet - and like your mother and mine - do know a thing or two after all! Time-tested rules are never secret, rather, they are universally acknowledged.
确是如此！像班奈特夫人——还有你的妈妈和我的妈妈——这样的人毕竟懂得多！这些经过时间考验的真理永远都不会是秘密，相反，是全天下人都知道的。

Rule Four: Don't Just Sit There, Say Something!
原则四：别光坐着，展开行动

'Sometimes, men just want to drive in silence without saying a word. Let them. Maybe he's thinking about how he's going to propose to you one day.'
“有时候，男人就想一句话也不说，陷入沉思。随他们去吧。或许他正想着，哪天他怎么向你求婚。”

But for the Jane Austen woman, the idea of sitting demurely in the passenger seat, not just of the car but of the conversation, is, frankly, offensive!
但是对简·奥斯丁来说，让女人在车里，乃至在一场交谈之中，只是端庄的坐在乘客的位置上，简直就是不可理喻。

Elizabeth Bennet, for one, would never do any such thing, and sparkles throughout Pride and Prejudice with her lively and witty repartee - 'Tease him, laugh at him' is how she deals with the stand-offish Mr Darcy.
比如说，伊丽莎白·班奈特就觉不会这样，在《傲慢与偏见》一书中贯穿着她生动睿智，妙语连珠的形象——对拒人千里的达西先生，她的对策是“挑弄他，嘲笑他”。

Rule Five: : No Girlfriends
原则五：防闺蜜

Sense and Sensibility's Lucy Steele is a great enthusiast for 'girl-talk'. But 'girl-talk' has that toxic tendency of making us more indifferent to what is real, transporting us to a realm of hyperbole in which nothing much matters - hence Lucy's utter carelessness as to which of the Ferrars brothers she ends up getting married to. Steer clear of 'girl-talk,' says Jane Austen, and keep your romantic analyses for the only one who merits them: your man.
《理智与情感》中的露西·斯蒂尔非常热衷于“女生间的悄悄话”，但是“女生间的悄悄话”有其负面作用，会让我们对现实越来越漠不关心，让我们陷入一种认为一切都无所谓的夸张的思维方式之中——所以露西才会毫不在意自己最终会嫁给法拉利众兄弟之中的哪一个。远离“女生间的悄悄话”，简·奥斯丁说，把你关于爱情的思考只留给那个值得这些思考的人——你的爱人。