囧研究 用选狗的方式来择偶

Many a woman who has overlooked a little first date leering - at other women - has lived to rue the day.
很多女人忽视了第一次约会对其他女性抛媚眼的重要性，之后都悔不当初。

You have standards for how you would dress and behave on a first date. Your date should, too.
你有第一次约会自己穿衣和举止得体的标准。你的约会对象也应该有这样的标准。

If your date's behaviour violates your standards in any way that's a clear sign that you could be in for a rough ride.
如果你的约会对象的举止违反了你的标准，不论怎样那就很明显意味着你之后的约会会举步维艰。

7. Docility
温顺

You want your date to be sensitive and responsive to your wishes.
你想让你的约会变得和你所想的一样心思细密，符合你的心愿。

Choosing your meal for you, unasked, or making decisions for you without consulting you is a clear sign of wanting to be top dog.
没有问你，就为你选好了食物；没有问你，就为你做好了决定，这些都很明显表现出他想主导这个约会。

Do you want to be reduced to playing Bottom Dog?
你想被逼到只能当败犬吗？

8. Playfulness
活泼快乐

You want someone not just to have fun with, but someone who's fun to be around.
你想要的不仅仅是一个能够一起愉快的玩耍的人，更应该是一个能让你在他身边感到快乐的人。

That doesn't necessarily mean someone who acts like a kid - what long-term kids are actually looking for is second mummies. You want someone who you feel comfortable enough around to be silly with.
这并不一定意味着某人表现的很像个孩子，那些长不大的“孩子”想要的是第二个妈妈。你想要一个让你感觉很舒服的人，和他在一起又感觉傻乎乎的。

9. Beware rogue breeders
小心流氓的饲养员

If you've been single for a while, friends may take it upon themselves to set you up with 'lovely dates'.
如果你长时间单身，你的朋友们就会担负起帮你制造约会的的责任。

Just because they find that date 'lovely' in the context in which they know them doesn't mean you will.
他们从他们自身来观察，觉得这场约会将会十分美好，但这并不意味着你也会感同身受。

You wouldn't buy a house just on the say-so of Mrs Bloggs three doors down.
你不会因为某人的三言两语就去买个房子。

You always have to do your own due diligence.
你必须要做好你自己应做的准备。

10. Leave the paperwork at home
把纸上谈兵抛之脑后

Women are terrible at playing 'Fantasy Future' - they go on a first date and, provided the man isn't an obvious freak or psychopathic monster, they get busy imagining their future life with that person.
女人幻想未来的能力很差。她们在第一次约会就幻想着她们和那个人的未来生活，假设这个男人不是个怪胎或心理变态。

A first date is not designed to be a marriage contract. It's simply the start of getting to know another person.
第一次约会并以一定会通向一场婚礼。而只是了解一个人的开始。

If you find yourself fantasising about that happy future, take a cold shower, or speak to a grounded friend.
如果你发现自己在幻想美好的未来，那就去洗个冷水澡，或者找个讲道理的好朋友谈谈。