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谣言终结者:关于双性恋你不知道的五件事
1. MYTH: Bisexuality Is Just "Experimenting".
谬论一:双性恋者只是在“试验”其性向。
To be bisexual does not inherently imply a state of flux or "figuring yourself out." There is no magic formula that will ever force a bi person to lean in one particular direction more strongly than another. To imply bisexual people are just experimenting is to undermine their identity entirely and invalidate their understanding of who they are.
双性向的本质反映出来并非是一种变化或“寻找自身”的状态。能迫使一位双性恋更倾向于某一性向的魔法配方根本不存在。“双性恋者只是在试验其性向”的暗示其实彻底削弱了他们的身份认同感,并驳倒其对自身的理解。
2. MYTH: Bisexuality Is Greedy.
谬论二:双性向者性贪。
What is greedy about love and attraction? Don't we all experience it? How can it be greed if it exists so abundantly in the world?
什么会贪图爱与魅惑?它难道不是我们都体验过的吗?倘若这个世界充满着爱与魅惑,那它又怎能被称为贪欲呢?
3. MYTH: Bisexual People Are More Likely To Cheat On You.
谬论三:双性恋者更有可能对你不忠。
That you're dating someone who is into more than one gender doesn't mean they are more likely to go out and pursue everyone. The definition of monogamy changes from couple to couple, not from one sexuality to another. If someone in a committed, monogamous relationship that both people have agreed on, it's problematic to assume that a bisexual partner will not honor that commitment.
你正在约会的对象是双性恋,并不意味着他(她)更有可能去追求每一个人并与之发展关系。不同夫妻对一夫一妻制的定义迥异,然而不同性向对一夫一妻的定义却无差别。如果某人处于双方皆认同并承诺的一夫一妻固定关系,假想双性恋的一方不会遵守承诺,这就有问题了。
4. MYTH: All Bisexual People Are Interested In Casual Sex.
谬论四:所有双性恋者都爱瞎搞性关系。
Experiencing attraction to multiple genders does not automatically imply high sex drive, all the time, with everyone. Relatedly, bisexuality also doesn't automatically translate to "interested in a threesome." Some bisexual people may be into threesomes, but others may not. Assuming that everyone in a specific group is never a good idea.
双性恋会被不只一种性别的人吸引,这并不等于双性恋在任何时候都会对所有人产生强烈的性欲。同理,人们也不能下意识地将双性恋理解成“乐于搞3P”。一些双性向的人也许喜欢3P,可也有一些可能对3P不感兴趣。把每个人都设想归入某特定群体绝非一个好想法。
5. MYTH: Bisexual People Can't Be Religious.
谬论五:双性恋不能信宗教。
Of course bisexual people can be religious. They can also have myriad other identities that are in no way determined by their sexuality. Surprise!
双性恋当然能信宗教。他们还能有许多其他的身份呢,这些身份可决不是由其性向决定的。惊讶吧!