保持恋爱激情的秘决

TRY THE TWO-MINUTE RULE
尝试"两分钟规则"

"Basically, anything can wait for two minutes. You have to pee? Got dinner cooking on the stove? Need to make an important phone call? Everything in life can wait for two minutes if it means making your spouse feel loved. So, when one of us calls for two minutes the other person has to stop whatever they are doing and we go find a place to alone together. For those two minutes you are not allowed to check a cell phone, answer a child, think of other tasks you need to do. At the end of the two minutes, either person has the right to say they need to get back to what they were doing and the other person can't be sad. We've been using this rule for over 10 years now and it's my favorite thing. Even our children know that when mom and daddy are having two minutes they cannot bug us."
"基本上，任何事情都可以再等2分钟。你想要上厕所？炉子上还烧着饭？需要打个重要电话？如果你需要让另一半感到被爱，那世上的任何事都可以等2分钟再去做。所以，如果我们当中的一个人要求有两分钟的时间，另一半就必须停下手上的事，然后我们会找一个地方独处。在这两分钟内，你不许看手机、孩子叫你你也不许答应、也不许想还有哪些工作要做。两分钟到后，任何一方都有权说他们需要做刚刚丢下的事情，而另一方不得感到难过。这个规则我们已经用了10年，这是我最喜欢做的事情。我们的孩子都知道，爸爸妈妈在一起的那两分钟是连他们都不能打扰的。"

VOLUNTEER TOGETHER
一起做志愿者

"Volunteering together keeps the spark alive in our relationship by connecting us to something bigger than our own problems. We don't have a perfect relationship, but we have a really great one. And nothing is sexier than seeing him help someone in need."
"一起做志愿者能让我们心意相通，思考比矛盾更重要的事情，这样能使我们的恋爱保鲜。我们的恋情并不完美，但恋爱时真的很棒。没有什么比看到他帮助需要帮助的人更性感的事情了。"

WHISPER SWEET NOTHINGS
轻声耳语，述说情话

"We decided early on is that we would never ever put each other down or say anything negative about the other one in front of others. We've made it a practice to only say supportive and kind things to each other in public and save disagreements for when we're alone. And even then we make sure to keep it civil. It's worked for us for 26 years."
"我们很早就决定：我们永远都不会让对方失望，也不会在其他人面前说对方不好的事情。我们养成了习惯，在公众面前只说对方积极的好事，只有当我们在一起的时候才会说出自己的不同意见。即使意见不一，我们都还是礼貌的交谈。这个方法在过去的26年都十分有效。"

WATCH THE SAME SHOWS TOGETHER
看同一部电视剧

"We've always liked to watch TV shows and movies together, but it was hard when one of us was traveling. So we decided to watch our show together on the phone (or FaceTime). We stay caught up with our shows and each other."
"我们总喜欢一起看电视剧、电影，但当我们中有人出去旅游时，这事就有点困难了。所以我们决定在手机上一起看剧（或用FaceTime一起看）。这样既能一起追剧，又能使感情升温。"

USE TECHNOLOGY TO SPICE THINGS UP
用科技增添情趣

"When my husband was deployed to Afghanistan we used Skype not just to talk but to keep the romance alive. Because you can see each other, Skype feels so much more real than just talking on the phone or texting. "
"当丈夫被派到阿富汗的时候，我们就用Skype聊天，使我们的爱情继续保鲜。因为你能够看到彼此，用Skype视频可比打电话或发短信真实多了。"