7 Tips to Make a Fantastic Impression on People Who Count

Making a fabulous impression on people opens doors for your Business, personal, and career endeavors. People like charming people who make them feel comfortable. So, making a fantastic impression helps you get where you want to go.

The basic rule to make a great impression is this: Humans crave to be around people who seem similar to themselves. The key word is seems. Everyone differs from other people in hundreds of ways. However, you get along with people you seem similar to you in interests, feelings, experiences, or goals. You can put these techniques into action to help people feel you seem similar to them and, as a result, make a wonderful impression.

1st Technique: Forget the "Golden Rule"

Since people crave to be around people who seem similar to themselves, avoid wasting time on the "Golden Rule" fantasy suggesting, "Treat people as you want to be treated." People do not want to be treated the way you want to be treated!

Instead, treat other people the way they like being treated. You make a stellar impression by focusing on their likes, not yours.

2nd Technique: Use the Other Person's Interpersonal Style

People interact using four interpersonal styles, as follows:

1. Results-Focused: "Quickly tell me the time, not how to build a clock!!"

2. Detail-Focused: "Slowly tell me how to build a clock, slowly leading up to what time it is."

3. Friendly-Focused: "First, I'll tell you about my family and weekend. Then, let's discuss yours. Then, let's gossip. Then, let's discuss work."

4. Partying-Focused: "Wanna hear another joke? Let's PARTY!!"

Remember: Humans crave to be around people who seem similar to themselves. So, with a results-focused person, act fast-paced and results-focused. To impress a detail-focused person, tell "how to build the clock," not what time it is.

3rd Technique: Mirror

Mirroring proves incredibly subtle, powerful, and physical. It helps the person instinctively feel comfortable with you. How? You mirror - make yourself seem similar to - the person's

1. Body language
2. Vocal style
3. Attire

To impress someone who sits straight, you sit straight with that person. If the person speaks slowly, then you do likewise. And dress as formally or informally as the person you want to impress.

4th Technique: Listen Attentively

This tale illustrates the importance of listening well.

A man decided to divorce his wife. His lawyer asked, "Did you love your wife?" The man replied, "I would have left her, but I was hesitant before."

Then, the lawyer asked, "Why do you want to leave her?" The man said, "We have lots of trees around our house, but I rake up the leaves myself."

The lawyer asked, "Is she mean?" The man answered, " I stopped eating red meat." Then, the lawyer inquired, "Does she do housework? Does she take out garbage?" The man responded, "We have a two-car garage."

Finally, the man felt frustrated, because he failed to understand the point of the lawyer's questions, so he blurted, "You're a lawyer. Ask me useful questions about my lousy marriage?"

So, the lawyer asked, "Why do you want to divorce?" The man replied, "Because we can't communicate!"

This story shows, in extreme fashion, that many conversations actually are two simultaneous monologues. To make a great impression, listen well using these tactics:1. Paraphrase or repeat ideas the person saidAsk questionsTake notes

5th Technique: Artful Vagueness

Prospective clients, who wanted to use my consulting, told me their business problems. Using my expertise with similar problems, I gave my recommendation. They kept telling me they did not like my recommendation. But I knew my recommendation would solve their Business problems. The more I said I was right and they were wrong, the more they defended their viewpoint. Suddenly, I realized I did not make them feel comforta