Your Gut Instincts & Ability to Get Along Quiz

How well do you understand how gut instincts - yours and others - influence likeability, decision making and even attention span? Want to find out? Here are nine questions. Some answers may surprise you.

1. Do people get along better when talking to each other if they are facingeach other or if they are standing side by side?

2. Who tends to face the person with whom they are speaking (men or women) and who tends to stand side by side, facing more or less the same way (women or men)?

3. If you want to increase the chance of knowing if someone is lying to you,what is one helpful phenomenon to notice about that person's face when he orshe is talking to you?

4. If you want to keep someone's attention, is it better to wear a patternedshirt or blouse or a plain blouse or shirt?

5. What is the most directly emotional of all the senses, bypassing thethinking facilities and causing a quicker, more intense reaction in the limbic(emotions) system than any other sense?

6. Are you more likely to get someone to support you or buy something if yougive them something up front, unasked, before you ask for the favor?

7. Who tends to maintain wider peripheral vision when entering a new place, men or women?

8. Who tends to be more specific in their descriptions, adults or children?

9. Of the previous eight questions, which is the one people are most likely toask for the answer to first, and if reading the questions in a group, are mostlikely to comment on first?

Answers

1. People get along better when they "sidle" stand or sit side by side ratherthan when they face each other.

2. Men are more likely to sidle than women.

3. Note the timing and duration of the first "reactive" expression on someone'sface when you think that person is not telling you the truth. When lying, mostpeople can put an innocent expression on their faces, yet few (exceptpathological liars) will have the right timing or duration of that expression.

If you ignore the expression itself and, instead, consider whether the timingand duration of the expression seem natural, you'll greatly increase yourchances of knowing if that person is lying.

4. Wearing a plain, unpatterned shirt or blouse will increase the chances thatthe listener will hear you longer. A patterned top or ornate jewelry or loudtie will break up the listener's attention span sooner, and that person is morelikely to go on more "mental vacations" sooner.

5. Smell is the most directly emotional of the senses. The right natural scentcan refresh or relax you and others in your Home or work site. Vanilla, apple,and chocolate are the scents Americans most like.

6. Yes, up to 14 times more likely to get their support or a purchase. This gutinstinct is often called "reciprocity reflex."

7. Women. That is why storeowners who serve men will increase their sales ifthey have prominent, eye-level signage over large displays where men will seethe signage soon after entering the store.

8. Children are more vividly specific, hitting their prime around fourth gradeand then beginning to speak in generalities, more like adults. Specificdetail prove general conclusions, not the other way around. Specifics are more memorable and credible.

9. Question number 3.

It seems that we have an inordinate interest in lying.

Three insights on instincts to connect:

Finding #1: "Move to Motivate"MOTION

Motion heightens the emotions people experience. When you are moving or watching movement you will feel more intensely about whatever is happening. Imagine the impact of this insight in when and how you choose to connect with someone else.For example, in explaining something to a friend or prospect, choose the important times to walk, turn, point, open.

Further, people remember more the things they dislike or fear that theyexperience in motion, more than things they enjoy. Motion attracts attentionand causes people to remember more of what's happening and feel more strongly about it, for better or for worse.

Insight:This is another justification for golf! Think of the memorability of a golf swing. The moredimensions of motion involved (body moving up/down, left/right,backward/forward), the more memorable the motion.

Get others involved in motions with you that create good will: walking, sharing a meal, handing or receiving a gift, shaking hands, turning to face a new scene. You are more likely