Why, When You Set Goals, Do You Fail to Reach Them?

Why is it when you set goals for yourself most of them are not realised?

How is it that intelligent people, who take time out to refocus and decide what they want to do with the rest of their life, don't follow through?

How is that friendly outgoing people who makes friends easily and are really good fun to be with find it difficult to keep to their own goals?

How is it that people who hold down difficult and stressful jobs find it difficult to break habits that cause them so much physical, psychological and social discomfort?

How is it that even though you buy numerous self help books. Even though you understand all the facts and issues you still can't stick to your goal?

So what is it?

What is it that bright, capable people can't grasp?

What's the answer?

You are working from the wrong premise. You have got the whole message the wrong way round. You are coming at the problem via the back door rather than walking straight in the front.

THIS IS THE PROBLEM

Whenever you work on goals, you are working on achieving some external result. Whether it be achieving end of month/ quarter/ year figures, stopping smoking, losing weight or starting a Business. When you chase goals like these, when you come from the place of what you are trying to achieve is external from you, you gradually switch off. Over time you catch yourself setting the goals but putting less and less effort into achieving them. Why? Because when you have achieved it, what do you do then? Do it again?

In a nutshell most of us have a goal habit. We aim at achieving these external things year on year and when we have reached them we are labelled a success. The problem is the feelings of Happiness and contentment don't last. That's why we're off again.

ANOTHER WAY

Instead of focussing on the end. Instead of focussing on how much weight you want to lose. How much money you want to earn. How much??? you want. It's not a question of inspiration, it's a question of intuition. . Focus on you. Yes YOU

Start to look at yourself.

Why are you setting these goals in the first place?

What are trying to achieve?

Most of us want to be happy. To feel fulfilled. To achieve peace of mind.To feel successful. The trouble is that when you achieve your goals, you get a sense of success, fulfilment, Happiness for a short time and then you're off again. Another year another set of goals.

Hence it is not the achievement of a goal that is important but the achievement of the essence of the goal. The Happiness. The fulfilment. The peace of mind.

But all of these things are inside you. You already have them. They've just got buried somewhere and need to be acknowledged.

As Dean Ornish Professor of Medicine at UCSF, USA stated at a recent conference in Monterey,

"Happiness is not to be pursued it's there already until we disturb it".

You don't need external goals to find them you just need to refocus.

As Eykis says In Wayne Dyer's book, Gifts From Eykis:

"There is no way to happiness.Happiness is the way".

In other words, we human beings, are like mirrors. We are happier, more contented and more fulfilled when our external results match our internal