《男性大脑》作者揭秘性别差异

　　A：The sexual circuitry releases huge amounts of dopamine. The reward system in the brain basically gets triggered during sex and orgasm and then feeds back on the rest of the brain, making it want to do that again and again — and wanting to seek out the person that you're having that lovely experience with again and again. So at some point, the love circuits and the sex circuits get gradually bound together. The sexual part of that experience gets more and more attached to that [particular] female, and gradually merges with that circuitry and identifies that person as "the one." Not all men get that, as we know, but the majority of men do。

　　Q:您写道，男性与女性产生感情的过程是不同的？请问到底是如何运作的呢？

　　A:镜像神经元系统[MNS]，能让我们通过看到他人的脸部表情，来了解某人当时的感觉。当我们看着一个婴儿或者其他的我们关注的人，女性对此引起的共鸣会比男性长得多。这并不是说男性就不会如此。事实上，他们也会。他们的镜像神经元系统会迅速作用，快速闪过正在发生的事情。然后他们会转换到另一个叫做颞部顶骨连接部位的系统，在那里他们会在整个大脑电路里展开google式搜索，来寻找解决问题的方法。

　　这一类的互动在来我办公室的夫妻间非常常见：妻子只希望丈夫在为她提供问题的解决方案前，能够谈谈她关于这件事情的感受。但他认为，好吧，到底沉迷这些感受有什么好处？我认为女人们忽略的一点是，男人们真的希望令到我们快乐。他是解决问题者。

　　Q：You write that men and women process emotions differently. How？

　　A：The mirror- neuron system [MNS] allows us to see a facial expression and know what that person is feeling. When we are looking at an infant or another person we care about, women will resonate with that feeling a lot longer than men. This is not to say that men don't do this. They do. They start out very quickly in the MNS and get a quick flash of what's going on. Then they switch into another system called the temporal parietal junction system, which allows them to start Google-searching their entire brain circuit for ways to fix the problem。

　　This type of interaction goes on lots and lots between the couples that come to my office: she just wants him to talk to her about how she's feeling about something before he launches into giving her the solution. And he feels like, well, what good will it do just to wallow in the feelings I think one of the things that women don't focus on or appreciate is that our men really want to make us happy. He's the fix-it man。