如何学会倾听别人的心声?

　　Understand the main points ----concentrate on the main ideas and not the illustrative material.

　　理解要点——集中精力听主要意思而非说明性材料。

　　Don't argue mentally----when you are trying to understand other people, it is a handicap to argue with them mentally as they are speaking. This only sets up a barrier between yourself and the speaker.

　　切忌激烈地争论——如果你想理解别人哀兵必胜说的话，那么在别人说话的时候与别人激烈地争论就会成为一大障碍。这只会在你与说话人之间设下一道鸿沟。

　　Use the difference in rate----you can listen faster than you can talk. So use this rate difference to your advantage by staying on the right track, anticipating what they are going to say, thinking back over what they have just said and evaluating the development of their argument. You speak at about 100 to 150 words per minute, but you think at 250 to 500.

　　不同的速率——听总快过说。因此你应该通过不同的估计以发挥你的优势。比如站在合适的位置，设想一下他们要说些什么，回想一下他们刚刚说了什么，并估计下段进展如何，说话时的语速是一分钟100至250至500字。

　　Learn to listen and you will achieve a great success in your life.

　　学会聆听，日后定会成功。