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如何简单的拒绝别人

2010-08-21来源:和谐英语
4. "Let me think about it first and I'll get back to you."

This is more like a "Maybe" than a straight out "No". If you are interested but you don't want to say ‘yes’ just yet, use this. Sometimes I'm pitched a great idea which meets my needs, but I want to hold off on committing as I want some time to think first. There are times when new considerations pop in(突然出现) and I want to be certain of the decision before committing myself. If the person is sincere about the request, he/she will be more than happy to wait a short while. Specify a date/time-range (say, in 1-2 weeks) where the person can expect a reply.

If you're not interested in what the person has to offer at all, don't lead him/her on. Use methods #5, #6 or #7 which are definitive.

5. "This doesn't meet my needs now but I'll be sure to keep you in mind."

If someone is pitching a deal/opportunity which isn't what you are looking for, let him/her know straight-out that it doesn't meet your needs. Otherwise, the discussion can drag on longer than it should. It helps as the person know it's nothing wrong about what he/she is offering, but that you are looking for something else. At the same time, by saying you'll keep him/her in mind, it signals you are open to future opportunities.

6. "I'm not the best person to help on this. Why don't you try X?"

If you are being asked for help in something which you (i) can't contribute much to (ii) don't have resources to help, let it be known they are looking at the wrong person. If possible, refer them to a lead they can follow-up on – whether it's someone you know, someone who might know someone else, or even a department. I always make it a point to offer an alternate contact so the person doesn't end up in a dead end(死胡同). This way you help steer the person in the right place.

7. "No, I can't."

The simplest and most direct way to say no. We build up too many barriers in our mind to saying no. As I shared earlier in this article, these barriers are self-created and they are not true at all. Don't think so much about saying no and just say it outright. You'll be surprised when the reception isn't half as bad as what you imagined it to be.

Learn to say no to requests that don't meet your needs, and once you do that you'll find how easy it actually is. You'll get more time for yourself, your work and things that are most important to you. I know I do and I'm happy I started doing that.