什么朋友你不该与之交往

Some competition can be healthy -- if your friend's goals or achievements serve as motivation for you -- but if the Competitor wants what you have, acts in a hostile way and will do anything not only to get what you have but take it away, this could cost you. If your friend has to get a house that's bigger or more expensive than yours to seem more successful than you, it may be time to dump her.
有些竞争是良性的（如果朋友的目标或者成就，能成为你的动力），但是，如果竞争者想得到你所拥有的东西，以一种敌意的方式行事，甚至可以不惜一切手段来不仅得到你有的东西，而且要夺去这些，这可能会让你付出惨痛教训。如果朋友一定要得到一所比你更大更贵的房子，以显得比你更成功，那么可能是摆脱她的时候了。

The Bloodsucker 
寄生者

This friend is overly dependent on you for emotional support or information. True, it can be flattering to be needed, and of course, the Bloodsucker may be there for you when other friends are too busy for you. But this energy vampire can be draining, which is why you should consider if this friend is worth keeping. As long as you set limits and know that this person will probably make extreme demands on you, you could keep this person in your life.
这种朋友在情感方面或者信息方面过度依赖于你。被别人需要会让你觉得很受用，这是真的，当然，当其他朋友因为太忙而不能陪你时，寄生者可能会站在你身边。但这种精力吸血鬼会大量消耗你，这就是为什么你要考虑一下，是否这种朋友值得你交。只要你设有忍耐限度，并且知道这种人可能会对你作出过份要求，那么，你是可以与这种人来往的。

The Abuser 
虐待狂

Don't tolerate anybody who verbally, physically or sexually abuses you. Of course, in some situations, it can be tough to figure out what constitutes abuse. Keep in mind, if someone is vicious and malicious in their comments and treatment of you, you're being verbally abused. Even sexual abuse may not be obvious, as it include subtle behaviors like making jokes that are offensive or sexual in nature, inappropriate comments or sexual harassment. If necessary, contact local police, counseling centers, victims programs, addiction programs or emergency hotlines for help. Then keep this kind of person away from you.
不要容忍任何言语上、身体上或性虐待你的人。当然，在某些情形下，很难确定怎样就构成了虐待。记住，如果某人言论和谈及你时恶意、不道德，你就受到了口头虐待。虽然性虐待可能不太明显，因为它包括某些微妙行为，如开些无礼或色情的玩笑，不适宜的谈话或性骚扰。如果有必要，可以向当地警局、咨询中心、受害者康复项目，成瘾康复项目和紧急状况热线求助，这会让这种人远离你。

 
The Double-Crosser
出卖朋友者

From spreading lies about you to going after your romantic partner, the Double Crosser's actions are the exact opposite of a friend's. If the doublecross happened only once, you might decide to continue the friendship, but let this guy know that his behavior is unacceptable. If you can't forgive, cut the friendship. Just don't ignite his wrath or he could turn against you.
从撒播关于你的谎言到追求你的恋人，出卖朋友的人所作所为刚好是朋友的反面。如果出卖朋友行为只发生了一次，你可以决定继续友谊，但是要让这个家伙知道这种行为不能接受。如果你不能原谅，那么就中止友谊。只是不要激起他的愤怒，否则他会与你为敌。

The Controller 
控制狂

Being a Controller is part of this person's personality, which means it's a harder trait to break. But it can be frustrating for you to be dominated so much. Maybe the Controller has to pick out everything you do as friends and gives an opinion on everything you do or want to do without being asked. There is no give and take, as the Controller is uncomfortable and bossy if you want to make a choice about something. If you want to keep the friendship alive, let the person know how much you dislike being controlled. This trait, though, may become so negative that you may need to break ties.
做个控制者是其个性的一部分，这意味着这个性是较难纠正的。但是，如果受控很严重，就很令人沮丧。该控制狂作为朋友可能会拿出你所做的每件事情，对你所做的和想要做的每件事情都不请自来地给出意见。那是不容商量的，因为如果你想对某件事作出选择，控制狂会不安而专横。如果你想保持友谊，就让那个人知道你有多么不喜欢受控。可是，这种个性，有时会变得很不利，以至你需要断绝这种关系。

The Downer 
扫兴者

"The Downer is a person you have to let into your life with care because this trait can be contagious," Yager says. It goes without saying, of course, that these types are always down, but ironically, if you're upbeat and positive, that may be the reason the Downer was attracted to you in the first place. It is not your job to be a therapist. But realize that she may not be able to change without professional help. Decide if she has any redeeming traits and if you can stay upbeat around her. If not, end the friendship. Don't keep her around just because you feel sorry for her.
“扫兴者是一种让他进入你生活时你必须小心的人，因为这种性格会感染他人”，耶格说。当然，不用说，这种人一直情绪低落，但是有讽刺意味的是，如果你达观而积极，那可能是扫兴者被你吸引的首要原因。做心理治疗师可不是你的工作。但是你要知道如果没有专业帮助她可能改变不了。你要确定是否在缺点之外她有一些可以弥补的优点，是否有她在身边你仍可以保持达观。如果答案是否定的，那么，就结束友谊，不要仅仅因为你为她感到遗憾就和她继续交往。