小孩不听话的真正原因是没什么?

"Let's say it's cold outside and you tell your 3 year old to go get his jacket out of his bedroom and get ready to go outside," the researcher says. "You might expect the child to plan for the future, think 'okay it's cold outside so the jacket will keep me warm'. But what we suggest is that this isn't what goes on in a 3-year-old's brain. Rather, they run outside, discover that it is cold, and then retrieve the memory of where their jacket is, and then they go get it."
“假设外面很冷，你叫你3岁的孩子回到房间拿他的夹克衫，准备出门。”研究人员称，“你可能希望你的孩子为未来做计划，想着‘好的外面很冷，而夹克衫可以御寒’。但是我们发现的是，这不可能是一个3岁小孩的脑子会想的事情。相反的，他们跑去外面，发现外面很冷，然后想想夹克衫在哪，再去拿。”

A better way to reason with a toddler with selective hearing?
有没有更好的方法说服一个跚跚学步的幼童有选择性地听话呢？

"Somehow try to trigger this reactive function," the (obviously childless) researcher suggests. "Don't do something that requires them to plan ahead in their mind, but rather try to highlight the conflict that they are going to face. Perhaps you could say something like 'I know you don't want to take your coat now, but when you're standing in the yard shivering later, remember that you can get your coat from your bedroom."
“从某种程度上尝试触发这种反动功能。”一个（显然没有子女的）研究人员建议。“不要做一些需要他们在脑中事先计划的事情，而是尝试强调他们将要面对的矛盾。比如你可以像这样说‘我知道你现在不想去拿你的外套，但是当你待会在花园里冷到发抖的时候，记得你本来可以去你房里拿你的外套的。”

I had to try this new approach, but I'm using a hot stove instead of a coat. Let's see if it works ...
我不得不尝试这个新方法，但是我用高温火炉代替了外套。让我们看看这有没有效……

"Aidan, please get your hand away from the hot, gas flame."
“Aidan，让你的手远离高温火焰。”

"Aidan, I know you don't want to take your hand away from the hot, gas flame, but when your hand catches fire and you get third-degree burns and I have to rush you to the hospital for four months of skin grafts, remember that Mommy told you that you should have kept your hand away from the flame. Ooops. See! Well, maybe you'll remember to trigger your reactive function next time."
“Adian，我知道你不想让你的手远离高温火焰，但是当你的手被烧伤，而且是三度灼伤，我必须匆匆把你送到医院做4个月的植皮手术的时候，记得妈妈告诫过你远离火焰的。呀。看！你下次就会记得触发你的反动功能。”

Somehow, I think I'll stick to my old method and let my kids continue to ignore me.
从某种程度上，我想我还是会坚持我的老方法，让孩子忽视我。

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