2012如何做到真正快乐幸福？

1. Put the cart before the horse. The most important—and at times perhaps the most annoying—piece of advice that I’ve gotten is just to straight out be happier. We get so caught up in trying to look perfect, get promoted, be cool, find a partner. All of that stuff is awesome, but it's not going to feel good for long without a certain base of personal contentment. You’re just going to want more and more. If you really think about it, we seek things because we think we will feel better once we have them. So why not just feel better and then see what comes?
1.将想法本末倒置。坦白来说，我得到的最重要的有时也是最讨厌的建议就是变得更快乐。我们总是过分追求外形完美，工作晋升，保持理智或找到伴侣。没错，这些都很诱人值得去追求，但若没有自我满足感，拥有这些并不能永远让你保持快乐。你会变得贪得无厌。仔细思考下，如果你真认为，我们追求某物是因为一旦获得它我们将变得开心，那为什么不开始先保持快乐的心态，也许你想要的会自动来到你身边呢？

2. Dream big and challenge yourself. To me, making a "resolution" feels like a punishment and a chore. I’ve always preferred to think of these goals as "dreams," which stirs up the feeling of possibility for me. There is a special energy and real power that comes from talking about your dreams, even when they sound totally crazy. Around this time of year, I like to make a list of what I really want to see happen in my life. I may not get to everything on that list this year (or even in my lifetime), but at least I can understand what direction I want to be moving in. If dreams don't appeal to you, think about your change as more of a challenge. In 2011 I challenged myself to take and post a photograph every day. Taking 365 pictures was fun at times and annoying at others, but in the end I learned that living an artistic life is about doing a little work every day, not just the occasional inspiration.
2.怀揣大梦想，自我挑战。做计划这种事对我来说就是被惩罚，等于做家务。因此，我倾向于将计划看作梦想，梦想可以带来实现的可能性。当你谈论你的梦想时，你会感受到一股奇妙却真实的力量在振奋着你——即使这个梦想听起来是那么的荒诞不羁。在每年这个时间，我都会列个清单写下我真正所需的一切，看看来年它们会不会发生。我可能不会将今年（或一生）所需的东西都列在上面，但至少可以明白自己所努力的方向。若你的梦想没有足够吸引你，可以考虑改变自己来实现自我挑战。在2011年，我的自我挑战目标是每天都要拍照摄影，并将作品张贴起来。有时你会发现完成365张照片是一种乐趣，但亦有人会觉得这样的工作非常痛苦，但最终我懂得了一点——做艺术不仅仅是瞬间的灵感，更多的是每天的点滴积累。

3.Act small. "Micro movements" is a term used by the inspirational author and dreaming advocate SARK. Twenty-eight years ago she was an unemployed artist in San Francisco who suffered from chronic procrastination. What changed her into the author of 16 bestselling books was learning how to take the first step. Her advice is that if your dream is to write a novel, then your first micro movement could be to turn on your computer. After that you can decide whether or not you want to keep going. If you do, from there you can open and name a Word document. If you decide to go further, then you can write a bad sentence and then maybe another will come. I’ve also heard this used as a way to motivate yourself to exercise: If you don’t feel like going for a run, just put on your shoes and see what happens. The key is to alleviate any pressure to do everything at once. Every project is made up of dozens of small steps that are all pretty doable.
3.从小事做起。“微行动”一词是由灵感作家和梦想倡导者萨克提出来的。28年前她是旧金山的一名患有慢性拖延症的无业艺术家。之后她开始学习如何迈出第一步来改变自我，因而成为了如今写出16本畅销书的著名作家。她给大家的建议是，若你的梦想是写小说，那你的第一个微行动就是打开电脑。打开之后你再决定你是否继续下一步。如果你决定继续，那么你将打开并创建一个word文档。若你想深入进行下去，你甚至可以写个病句，而下一句或许就随之而来了。我经常听到这样鼓舞人心的话：即使你不想跑步，你也先穿上跑鞋再说。这样激励方式的关键在于减轻你立刻行动的压力。其实每个大的计划都是由多个可行的小步骤积累形成的。