春节“恐归族”：回家过年你怕了吗？

　　However, for many, the contrast between reality and expectations becomes another factor to remain in the big cities.

　　而对于很多仍在大城市打拼的人来说，现实与期望之间的对比也成为他们不愿返乡的原因之一。

　　Sun Lingling, 25, who landed a job in Shanghai two years ago, found homecoming a dreadful emotional experience.

　　25岁的孙玲玲（音译）两年前在上海找到一份工作，她现在发现回家开始成为一种烦人的心理折磨。

　　“I was exhausted traveling from Shanghai to Shaanxi. Friends who hadn’t been in touch for a long time wanted to know about my life.

　　孙玲玲说：“从上海奔波回到陕西老家已经令我筋疲力尽。好久没联系的朋友都想知道我在上海的生活状况。”

　　“They asked if I had a car or an apartment,” said Sun who had mixed feelings about their curiosity.

　　“他们会问你是否买房买车。”对于他们的好奇心，孙玲玲的心里实在是五味陈杂。

　　Huang Xi, who graduated from Peking University, has the same problem. He has worked as a civil servant in Xiamen for two years.

　　毕业于北京大学的黄熙（音译）也面临着同样的问题。他是一名公务员，已经在厦门工作了两年时间。

　　He wavered about returning home to a small town in Jiangxi. “In the past, everyone asked about whether I was going to be promoted,” said Huang.

　　对于是否回江西小镇的老家过年，他显得犹豫不决。黄熙说：“过去，每个人都会问我是不是要升官了。”

　　He thought that his return home only increased his elderly relatives’ anxieties. “Watching their disappointed expressions, I would feel at a loss.”

　　他觉得自己回家只会徒增自家亲戚长辈们的烦恼。“看到他们失望的表情，我会觉得自己很失败。”

　　He Ming, a professor of sociology at Shenzhen University suggested young people should return home with an open mind.

　　深圳大学社会学教授何明（音译）建议年轻人们可以对于回家过年这件事抱着一种开明的态度。

　　“Just realize that everything springs from a family’s concern,” he said. “Young people should think about enjoying their families’ love and care.”

　　他说：“要意识到所有这些状况都源于家人的关注。年轻人应该考虑如何去好好享受家人的关爱。”

　　Experts also notice many young people only return home once a year. The result is that families tend to focus on discussing big issues and ignore basic emotional communications between parents and children.

　　专家还指出，很多年轻人一年只回家一次。这样的结果是家庭成员只是关注一些大事，而忽略了家长与子女间最基本的情感交流。

　　“If you go home more often, you could understand each other better and communication would be easier,” said Zhao Peng, vice president of the China Association of Social Workers.

　　中国社会工作协会赵蓬表示：“如果你回家次数能更多，你和家人就能更好地相互理解，沟通交流也就变得更加容易了。”