婚前必须想清七大问题：别让自己嫁得不明不白

　　The New York Times reported that over half of the births to US women younger than 30 occurred outside of marriage in 2009. Most of the ongoing rise of births to unmarried women occurred to couples living together but unmarried. So why don’t these young women want to get married?

　　《纽约时报》报道，在2009年，30岁前怀孕的美国女性中有超过半数是未婚生子。这一数据目前还在持续增长。这里面的很多女性是跟爱人处在未婚同居的状况。为什么她们不想结婚？

　　Here are seven of the areas that the women who answered my question, “What is the most important thing you wish you had known before you were married?” mentioned most frequently。

　　对此我进行了一个调查，我的问题是“什么是你在结婚前最想知道的事情？” 以下7件事是她们提到次数最多的回答：

　　1. I wish I’d known what marriage is really like。

　　我希望自己知道婚姻的真实面目。

　　Many of these women got most of their information (really misinformation) about what marriage was supposed to be like from the media and they believed it until reality struck。

　　婚姻应该是什么样的？大部分女性都是从媒体获得的相关信息(其实都是错误信息)，她们对这些深信不疑，直到受到现实的冲击。

　　2. I wish I’d known more about myself。

　　我希望我更了解自己。

　　These women had very little idea of who they were or would like to be when they were not trying to please the people around them。

　　在卸下取悦他人的面孔后，很多女性根本不知道自己是谁，自己想成为什么样的人。

　　3. I wish I hadn’t been in such a hurry so I could’ve taken the time I needed。

　　我希望我没有如此赶着结婚，这样我就能一切慢慢来。

　　These women feel pressure to marry prematurely both internally from themselves and from others。

　　这些女性对于自己和伴侣在不够成熟的状况下走入婚姻表示很有压力。