婚前必须想清七大问题：别让自己嫁得不明不白

　　4. I wish I knew just how much family patterns could influence us。

　　我希望我了解家庭模式会对我们的婚姻造成怎样深远的影响。

　　These women were so surprised by how difficult it was to blend their own ideas with their husbands’ family influenced ideas of what marriage was supposed to be like。

　　这些女性在婚后发现，很难将自己和丈夫因为不同家庭环境影响而产生的对婚姻根深蒂固的看法融合到一起。

　　5. I wish I’d known that bad behavior can get worse。

　　我希望自己知道坏行为只会变得更糟糕。

　　This very common response came from women who made excuses for their fiance’s behavior before marriage. They were surprised that they weren’t able to change it。

　　这是那些为自己的未婚夫在婚前的不良行为找借口的女性的共同反应。她们在婚后发现丈夫根本改不掉那些习惯。

　　6. I wish I’d paid a whole lot more attention to money。

　　我希望我有更关心钱的问题。

　　Some women surprised themselves by how capably they managed money once they were forced to do so. Others realized how they have given away their power by not taking joint responsibility for the couple’s money。

　　有些女性很惊奇的发现，一旦她们被迫理财，她们就会发现自己在钱财问题上多么精明能干。还有一些则意识到没有跟丈夫共同承担家庭财务责任，其实是放弃权力的做法。

　　7. I wish I’d known what it really takes to makes a marriage work。

　　我希望我知道怎么样才能经营好一段婚姻。

　　Many of these women shared the challenges they had met in the lessons they’ve learned along the way to help them eventually make their marriages work。

　　很多女性在经营婚姻的道路上都面临过同样的挑战，正是这些挑战让她们慢慢摸索出了如何才能经营好一段婚姻。