人生短暂活在当下：浪费生命的8种方式

One of the hardest challenges we face in life is to simply live in our own skin – to just be right here, right now, regardless of where we are. Here are eight reasons so many of us miss out on life as it’s happening.
生活中最困难的一件事便是活在当下——不论处境如何，只活在此时此刻。以下便是很多人浪费生命的八大方式。

1. The fear of missing out.
1、总担心错过什么

If you feel anxious because you constantly feel like you’re missing out on something happening somewhere else, you’re not alone. We all feel this way sometimes. But let me assure you, you could run around trying to do everything, and travel around the world, and always stay connected, and work and party all night long without sleep, but you could never do it all. You will always be missing something.
总是焦灼忧虑、觉得自己错过了别处正在发生的某些事情么？那你可不是唯一有这种感觉的人。有时候人们都会这么想。但是我敢保证，就算你设法四处奔波忙碌、周游世界、与人联络、没日没夜地上班或聚会，事情也还是没完，你还是会觉得生活中少了什么。

So let it go, and realize you have everything right now. The best in life isn’t somewhere else; it’s right where you are, at this moment. Celebrate the perhaps not altogether insignificant fact that you are alive right now. This moment, and who you are, is absolutely perfect. Take a deep breath, smile, and notice how lovely it is.
所以还是放手吧，想想自己已经拥有的。最好的生活不是生活在别处，而就是你此时此刻所经历的。撇开所有无足轻重的一切，为自己当下还活着而庆幸吧。此刻的你才是最好的。深呼吸，微笑，想想一切多么美好吧。

2. Avoiding pain and defeat.
2、逃避痛苦和挫折

Not to spoil the ending for you, but everything is going to be OK – you just need to learn a lesson or two first. Don’t run from the realities of the present moment. The pain and defeat contained within is necessary to your long-term growth. Remember, there is a difference between encountering defeats and being defeated. Nothing ever goes away until it teaches you what you need to know, so you can move on to the next step.
这么说并非是诅咒你失败，但一切总归会好起来吧——你只是先要吸取一两次教训罢了。请不要逃避此刻的现实，内心的痛苦和失落对你日后的长远发展也有必要。请记住：遭遇挫折与被打败之间是有区别的。生活总是先教导你让你明白事理，然后才让你继续前行。

3. Holding on to what’s no longer there.
3、对过去的一切耿耿于怀

Some of us spend the vast majority of our lives recounting past memories, and letting them steer the course of the present. Don’t waste your time trying to live in another time and place. Let the past, go. You must accept the end of something in order to begin to build something new. So close some old doors today. Not because of pride, inability or egotism, but simply because you’ve entered each one of them in the past and realize that they lead to nowhere.
很多人会浪费大把时间追忆过去，让回忆占据当下生活。请别浪费时间试图活在另一段时光或另一个地方。过去的就让它过去吧。你必须接受已然发生的结局，开始新的生活。因此，现在就请尘封回忆之门——不是因为骄傲、无能或自尊，而是因为过去你已经一个一个开启过它们，已经知道它们指引不了什么了。

4. Retelling a self-defeating story.
4、重复挫败自己的故事

If we continue to repeat a story in our head, we eventually believe that story and embrace it – whether it empowers us or not. So the question is: Does your story empower you? Don’t place your mistakes on your mind, their weight may crush your current potential. Instead, place them under your feet and use them as a platform to view the horizon. Remember, all things are difficult before they are easy. What matters the most is what you start doing now.
如果我们在脑中反复讲述一个故事，最后我们就会信以为真并予以接受——不论这故事对我们是否有利。问题是：故事对你有利吗？请别对自己的错误铭记不忘，因为它们会扼杀你现在的潜能。相反你应该把它们踩在脚下，让它们成为你开阔视野的垫脚石。请记住：万事总是开头难。你现在所做的事情才是最重要的。