朋友一生一起走：五种方式这样经营友情

Do you enjoy being around a pessimist, someone who is generally described as being able to brighten up a room just by leaving it? The answer is obvious. Most people prefer to be around people who believe that tomorrow is going to be better than today, rather than people who believe that today is even worse than yesterday.
你喜欢和一个悲观主义者呆在一起吗？那种一离开房间大伙儿就开心地不得了的人？答案显而易见。大多数人愿意和相信明天会更好的人交朋友，而不是那些哀叹今天比昨天更糟的人。

Optimists spread cheer wherever they go and make others feel good about themselves. That's a guaranteed way to make friends.
乐观达人们所到之处都能传播欢笑，也使他人喜欢自己。这是结交朋友的一个保证条件哦！

4. Capturing the pleasing personality
培养讨人喜欢的个性

Virtually every time you say that so-and-so has "charisma," you're really talking about so-and-so's great personality. When he walks into a room, he has a presence — not just looks — that attracts attention from people around him. Or when she's in a crowd, you soon hear a soft buzz coming from the area where she is.
事实上，当你每次赞美某某有风范气质时，你其实就是在谈论他迷人的个人魅力。当他走进房间，他的存在（不单单是他的长相）就会吸引在场的人。或者是即使当她在蜂拥的人群中，你也能很快听到其悦耳的声音从她所在的地方传来。

How do you develop a pleasing personality? Here are some steps you can take:
如何才能使培养讨人喜欢的性格呢？下面有几个步骤：

Smile when you see someone. You don't have to give a wide grin — just a pleasant, friendly smile.
遇到他人时微笑。你不需要哈哈大笑，只需要一个愉悦友好的微笑。

Speak in a pleasant, upbeat tone of voice. Talk to people as if they are good friends, even if they don't really fall into that category yet.
用积极向上的语气和人交谈。说话时把每个人看成你的朋友，即使他们根本还算不上是你的朋友。

Take a course in public speaking. The ability to express yourself attracts favorable attention from many sources.
进修公共演讲课程。表达能力会使你吸引到四面八方的注意。

Develop a sense of humor. Pick up a couple of joke books. This makes you a little more outgoing and friendly. When you combine that quality with the ability to express yourself before a group, your confidence grows.
培养自己的幽默感。选择几本笑话书，这会使你更加开朗和友好。当你把这样的品质和表达能力在一群人面前展现出来时，你的自信就会提升。

5. Don't criticize unjustly
不要不公正地批判他人

Instead of being eager to dish out criticism all the time, take the humane, sensible approach. Look for the good in other people. Encourage them. Build them up.
不要总是急于将你对朋友的批评一股脑儿倒出来，试试采用更亲切也更理智的方式。试试去寻找其他人身上的优点，鼓励他们，帮助他们建立自信。

Most people seldom think through each situation completely and consider the other person's point of view. If you take the time and effort to do this, you'll end up with more friends.
大多数的人很少彻底地想清楚对方的情况，考虑别人的意见。如果你花点时间和精力去做到这一点，你就会有更多的朋友。