过来人分享：20多岁要养成的20个好习惯（二）

过来人分享：20多岁要养成的20个好习惯（一）

11. Manage your money before it starts to manage you.
积极理财，别反被金钱束缚。

Too many people buy things they don’t need with money they don’t have to impress people they don’t know. Don’t be one of them. Bottom line: It’s easier to find long-term wealth by needing and spending less, instead of making more. So spend less than you earn, and always go without until you have the cash in hand. Keep six months of your salary in an emergency savings account just in case you lose your job or have an emergency that prevents you from working for a prolonged period of time. And keep a few extra hundred dollars on hand for unexpected expenses, such as car and home repair.
很多人为了讨好别人，会花过多的钱去买并不需要的东西。别做这种人。心中要有底线：和“花得多赚得就多”相比，“日积月累能致富”更靠谱。所以，节俭生活，出门时能少带钱就少带。把6个月的薪水当做“紧急账户”存起来，以防突然被炒鱿鱼，或遭遇某事而导致你在未来几月内无法工作赚钱。同时手头也要有些现金储蓄以备不时之需，比如修车、装修房间之类的。

12. Let the wrong people go.
对错误的人放手。

You can try your hardest, you can do everything and say everything, but sometimes people just aren’t worth trying over anymore, and they aren’t worth worrying about. It’s important to know when to let go of someone who only brings you down. The moment someone tells you that you’re not good enough is the moment you know you’re better off than they are, and better off without them.
是的，你可以拼命努力争取，也可以无所不用其极，但有时候并不是每个人都值得你去奋力追求的，他们不值得你如此费心。对于那种只会让你难过失落的人，放手吧。如果有人对你说“你还不够好”，那么，离开他/她，因为这恰好证明了你非常好，并且没有了他/她的影响你会变得更优秀。

13. Appreciate your true friends, and return the favor.
对朋友心存感激，并记得回报。

A friend who understands your tears and troubles is far more valuable than a hundred friends who only show up for your smiles and joys. Because a true friend accepts who you truly are, and also helps you become who you are capable of being. Friendships like this require more than just finding the right person, they also require you to be the right person. When someone believes in you enough to lift you up, try not to let them down. True friendship is a sweet responsibility to be nurtured, not an opportunity to be exploited.
一个能理解你苦痛的朋友，比一百个狐朋狗友来得更为珍贵。因为只有真正的朋友才能接受你本身的样子，才会会帮助你变成更好的自己。这种友谊是双方的：你不仅需要去找到那个“对的朋友”，你也要做对方那个“对的朋友”。因此，若有人对你展现了足够的信任，请别让他们失望。真正的友谊是需要时常用爱心和责任浇灌的。

14. Do everything with a touch of kindness.
做任何事都要心存善意。

Whatever can be done, can be done more effectively when you add kindness. Whatever words are spoken, will always be more compelling when expressed with kindness. The kind deeds you exert in just one moment can have a positive impact that lasts a lifetime. Your days will be brighter and your years fuller when you add kindness to your purpose. Choose to be kind every day, and you’re truly choosing to live in a better world.
当一件事被加上了善意，那么它就能完成得更好。当一句话被加上了善意，就能变得更为动听。有时候，一瞬间突发的善意能不经意地带来一辈子的良好影响。生命将从此变得更为光明，而你本人也能包含着友善去生活。请日行一善，这样的话，你就能生活在一个更美好的世界里。

15. Choose happiness.
选择快乐。

If you can find joy in doing nothing, you can find it in everything. Realize that happiness and joy are not always the result of good things, oftentimes they are the cause of good things. There is nothing you need in order to be happy other than the choice to be. So let go of the worries you have for what may or may not come your way. Focus instead on the good things that you can give, create, inspire and choose to experience, right here, right now. Don’t allow the world to pull you down with its negativity. Choose to transform the world around you with your own positivity.
假如连什么也不做都能给你带来快乐的话，那么任何事都可以让你快乐。你会明白，有时候快乐不仅仅是好事的结果——它也可以是带来好事的原因。想得到快乐，那么自己要先学会快乐。丢掉那些无谓的烦恼吧，去关注能给你带来收获、创造力、美好经历的事物。对，就从现在开始。别让世界的阴暗面影响你，而应该让自己的光明面去影响世界。