过来人分享：20多岁要养成的20个好习惯（二）

When you’reinfuriated with someone else, take a few deep breaths, sit quietly, and think for a moment. Acknowledge the true source of your anger. Anger bleeds from the inside out. Remember that we need to fix ourselves first before we attempt to fix or influence others. Trying to change others is a common recipe for prolonging the suffering. Taking responsibility for changing yourself, and how you deal with the actions of others, is a recipe for growth, freedom, and happiness.
对别人感到愤怒时，请先深呼吸，安静地坐下并思考一会儿。找出愤怒的真正原因，因为愤怒是来自内心的。请记住，改变自己比尝试改变他人更重要。一味地想改变他人只会延续自己的痛苦。不如先从反省自己开始，试着适应他人不同的行为方式，这样能让自己变得更成熟、自由和快乐。

17. Accept some responsibility for the way others treat you.
别人对待你的态度，部分取决于你自己。

Yes, on occasion you will run into someone who is downright wicked, but for the most part, others will look to you for direction on how you want to be treated. They will test you to see what is acceptable, and then treat you the way you let them treat you. Remember, you can’t control them, but you can control what you tolerate.
的确，我们时不时会遇到特别不讲理的人。但除此之外的绝大多数人都是经过试探你的表现后才决定如何对待你的。他们会挑战你的底线，并用你能接受的方式来对待你。记住，我们不能控制他人，但我们可以控制自己的底线。

18. Work on your inner beauty too.
除了外在美，内在美也要重视。

Our outward acts are a manifestation of who we are on the inside. Let’s remind ourselves to love who we are from the inside out – to be pretty happy, handsomely kind, pretty smart, handsomely unique, pretty loving, handsomely lovable, pretty quirky, handsomely funny, pretty cool – and not just pretty and handsome.
有句话说的是“相由心生”。要爱那个原本的自己，由内而外，你不只有张帅气或漂亮的皮囊，你有更多的东西，比如快乐、友善、聪慧、独特、真挚、可爱、古灵精怪、有趣、酷！

19. Introduce a little variety into your routine.
给平淡生活一些多彩的变化。

Remember that the way you’ve always done it isn’t the only way. It’s unlikely that one of the things you’ll regret when you’re 70 is not having consumed enough beer in your 20s, or not having bought enough $6 lattes from Starbucks, or not having frequented the same night club for years. But the regret of missing out on opportunities is a real, toxic feeling. You’ve figured out drinking and going out. You’ve had enough lattes. It’s time to figure something else out. Every corner you turn or street you walk down has a new experience waiting for you. You just have to see the opportunity and be adventurous enough to run with it.
生活并不总是一成不变的。等到了70岁，你后悔的肯定不会是“20多岁没喝够啤酒”，或“星巴克的廉价拿铁还没买够”，或“常去的那个小酒吧应该更多去去”这类。真正错失了一个机会能让人心如刀割，喝酒、买咖啡、出去玩……这种事你早就做得够多了。现在是该找点新乐趣的时候了。每条街的转角处，也许都有一个新机会、新体验等着你。你所需要做的，是抓住机会，并勇敢地体验它。

20. Always keep in mind that life is somewhat uNPRedictable.
永远要记住：生命是不可预见的。

Some of the great moments in your life won’t necessarily be the things you do; they’ll be things that happen to you. That doesn’t mean you can’t take action to affect the outcome of your life. You have to take action, and you will. But don’t forget that on any day, you can step out the front door and your whole life can change in an instant – for better or worse. To an extent, the universe has a plan that’s always in motion. A butterfly flaps its wings and it starts to rain – it’s a scary thought, but it’s part of life’s cycle. All these little parts of the machine, constantly working – sometimes forcing you to struggle, and sometimes making sure you end up exactly in the right place at the right time.
生活中发生的一些重大事件，并不是我们根据平日所为能预料到的。有时它们就是突然发生了。但是这并不代表我们对生活就此束手无措。你需要采取行动——是的，我知道你会这样做。同时也请记住，一瞬间发生的事也许会彻底改变你的人生——无论越好或越坏。总的来讲，宇宙是永远在变动中的。蝴蝶轻扇翅膀，也许就会带来一场大雨——想想真恐怖，不过，这就是生命轮回的一部分。就像机器的每个小零件，它们会一直迫使你前进、挣扎，偶尔还会收获恰到好处的惊喜。