你长大了吗？判断人真正成熟的20种表现

How can one classify a true adult? Many people directly attribute age to adulthood. The problem with this methodology becomes evident when you discuss the topic with various people of different cultural backgrounds. If you ask each of them what age they believe constitutes the point at which a person progresses from childhood into adulthood, their answers will always be different. Why? Because every one of the answers are based on subjective opinion. Adulthood is not based age; it’s based strictly on emotional maturity.
怎样定义一个真正的成年人？很多人会直接把成年和年龄相挂钩。当你和有着不同文化背景的人来讨论这个话题的时候，你会发现这种分类方式是有明显错误的。当你问其中的每一个人，一个未成年的人到成年人的转折点是几岁，他们的回答总是不同的。为什么？因为他们的回答都是基于自己主观的看法。成年的界定并不是看年龄，而是看心智的成熟。

So what constitutes emotional maturity, and thus adulthood? Here are 20 defining characteristics of a true adult:
那什么是心智的成熟呢？怎样才能成年呢？下面是20条成年人心智成熟的表现：

1. Realizing that maturity is an ongoing process, not a state, and continuously striving for self improvement.
意识到成熟是一个不断进行的过程，而不是一种状态，要不断提升自己。

2. Able to manage personal jealousy and feelings of envy.
有能力处理好个人的猜忌和嫉妒情绪。

3. Has the ability to listen to and evaluate the viewpoints of others.
能做好倾听和反思他人的看法。

4. Maintains patience and flexibility on a daily basis.
每天都能保持耐心和灵活处事的能力。

5. Accepts the fact that you can’t always win, and learns from mistakes instead of whining about the outcome.
接受你并不一直都是赢家的事实，能从错误中吸取教训，而不是发牢骚。

6. Does not overanalyze negative points, but instead looks for the positive points in the subject being analyzed.
不会钻牛角尖过度悲观，能看到事物积极的一面。

7. Is able to differentiate between rational decision making and emotional impulse.
能区分理智决定和情感冲动之间的不同。

8. Understands that no skill or talent can overshadow the act of preparation.
知道机会总是给予那些做好充分准备的人。

9. Capable of managing temper and anger.
能够处理好自己的脾气和愤怒。

10. Keeps other people’s feeling in mind and limits selfishness.
能考虑到他人的感受，让自己尽力不要太自私。