爱自己:6个温暖小细节 和自己谈场恋爱

How to Fall in Love With Yourself
如何爱上你自己？

We are constantly bombarded with visions of how we are not good enough or how we need to improve ourselves. And it’s not only external things that cause us to have such low self-esteems and feel bad about ourselves either. Maybe you think all the negative-self talk is your way of being real with yourself. Little things like: I’ll never get it done, I don’t deserve that, why would they want to help me? oh I could never wear that, and I’m not smart enough. Instead of focusing on and telling yourself what you can’t do try focusing on what you can do.
我们总是被这些想法狂轰滥炸：觉得自己不够好，需要完善自我。不只是外在的因素让我们自尊心不够或者觉得自己不好，也许你会觉得，这样自我否定的消极对话是你内心对自己的真正看法，那些都是生活中的琐事：我永远办不好这件事；我不值得；他们为什么想帮我？唉，我真不该穿那件衣服；我不够聪明......现在，我们需要转变注意力：试着去关注那些我们能做到的，而不是那些我们做不到的。

Here are a few ideas you can try to build yourself up and fall in love with yourself all over again.
下面这些小贴士，会让你变得更强大，重新爱上你自己：

Focus on your strengths. We all have strengths and luckily they are not all the same. Do things you are naturally good at and enjoy and you will build self confidence, efficiency and pride.
聚焦自己的强项。我们都有强项，很幸运，大家的强项各有不同。做一些你天生擅长的事情，享受过程，你会建立自信、效率和骄傲。

Be proud of your accomplishments. No matter how big or seemingly small your accomplishments are you should be very proud of each and every one of them. Whether it’s completing high school, university, starting your own company, having kids and raising a family, completing a project that’s hanging around for far too long, be proud. Celebrate the small and large accomplishments and everything in between.
为自己的成功感到骄傲。为自己的每一次成功感到骄傲，不论大小。也许是完成高中学业，可能是从大学顺利毕业，也许是开了自己的公司，有了孩子，开始养家糊口，也可能是完成了一个拖了很久的项目，这些都值得骄傲。为自己这些大大小小的成功的一切喝彩。

Get excited about who you are. Celebrate your uniqueness. Maybe you’re a very caring individual, efficient, or adept to solving problems. Embrace it. Be proud that you’re not like everyone else in your social circle. People love you for being you.
很开心，我是这样的人。庆祝你的独一无二。也许你富有爱心，也许你办事很有效率，又或者你解决问题很老道。拥抱你的特别。你应该感到骄傲，因为你跟你的社交圈里的其他人都不一样。正因为你是你，所以大家才会爱。