7步走出失败经历:有强大的内心才能成功!

Failure sucks. But if your planning on doing anything important you are going to have to get used to it. Embarrassment, frustration and even bad situations you can’t control are going to be part of life. What can you actually do about them instead of just having a “positive attitude?”
失败的感觉糟透了。但是如果你打算做任何重要的事情，你就必须要习惯这种感觉。难堪、沮丧，甚至是一些你无法控制的糟糕的情况都会是生活中的一部分。只有“积极的态度”是不够的，你还应该做些什么呢？

1. Find a Meaning
1. 找到一种意义

Ask yourself how you can use the bad experience. Here are some ways you can find a meaning in your situation to move past it:
问问自己该怎样利用这段糟糕的经历。你可以通过下面这个问题来发现某段糟糕经历的意义，从而走出这段痛苦：

What has it taught you?
它教给你什么？

Has it made you stronger/kinder/wiser?
它是否让你更坚强/更善良/更睿智？

Even simply enduring a bad moment has meaning in making your happy moments better.
哪怕只是单纯地忍受一段糟糕的时间也有它的意义：让你的快乐时光显得更快乐。

2. Keep a Failure Log
2. 写失败日志

Keep track of any failures, embarrassments or blunders. Using a failure log you can give yourself a little checkmark of accomplishment. It may seem odd to reward failures in this way, but rewarding your failures serves two main purposes:
记录你经历的任何失败、难堪或错误。通过写失败日志你可以发现自己都犯过那些错误。这样对待失败似乎有些奇怪，但它有两个主要目的：

It makes you more willing to take chances when the only risk is to your pride.
当唯一的风险是你的自尊时，你会更愿意冒险。

It causes you to focus more on learning and growth than external recognition.
你会更专注于学习和成长，而不是外界的看法。

I’ve even heard from other people that if they don’t have at least a few major failures each year, they don’t believe they were trying hard enough.
我甚至听人说过，如果他们每年没至少犯几个大错误，他们都不相信自己已经足够努力了。

3. Find a New Goal
3. 寻找一个新目标

Don’t dwell in the past. The best way to get out of a rut is to start building momentum again. Get a new goal or pursuit. A new challenge will get you to stop thinking about your failure and get you to focus on something positive. A new goal will also give the opportunity for future successes instead of dwelling on a current stumble.
不要活在过去。走出深渊的最好办法就是重新开始积累动力。寻找一个新的目标或追求。一个新的挑战会让你停止思考之前的失败，专注于积极的东西。一个新的目标还会为未来的成功提供机会，而不是纠结于眼前的失败。