7步走出失败经历:有强大的内心才能成功!

You ability to handle big stresses depends on how well you handle the little ones. If your life is constantly driving you crazy, you need to reconstruct it to better handle stress. There are already many resources on handling stress, but here are a few quick tips:
你处理沉重压力的能力取决于你应对较小压力的能力。如果你的生活一直让你感到崩溃，你需要重新调整一下，以便更好地应对压力。关于如何应对压力已经有很多方法，下面是一些快速减压小妙招：

Keep your energy high by staying in shape.
保持体形以确保自己有旺盛的精力。

Fire people from your life who are a source of chronic negativity.
把那些长期给你带来消极因素的人赶出你的生活。

Find outlets for your stress that help you recover instead of intensifying the frustration.
为你的压力找个出口会有助于减压而不会加剧沮丧情绪。

5. Build a Support Base
5. 打造一个后援团

Building a support base of colleagues and mentors will help you when times are rough. This is definitely a situation where you need to prepare in advance. Even if you aren’t having to deal with a particularly difficult situation right now, you might need some reinforcement in the future.
打造一个同事和顾问组成的后援团，会在艰难时刻为你提供帮助。你需要为此提前做好准备。哪怕你现在并没有面临什么棘手的问题，未来你也许会需要一些帮助。

Have the right peers and mentors who will encourage you past your mistakes. Here are some tips for attracting the right people into your life:
找一些能够鼓励你走出错误阴影的伙伴和顾问。下面这些建议告诉你如何把这些对的人吸引到你的生活中来：

You give what you get. Be extra attuned to the needs of your friends and they will do the same.
你给予什么就得到什么。更习惯于你朋友的需求，他们也会同样对待你。

Spend less time on negative people. If you can’t eliminate them entirely, reduce your interactions so you can focus more on better relationships.
离那些消极的人远一些。如果你不能把他们完全赶出你的生活，那就减少你们的接触，这样你就可以更专注于良性的关系。

6. Be Humble
6. 保持谦虚态度

A sense of humility and humor can keep you moving forward when things are tough. I’m not a follower that says overwhelming confidence is the approach to success. Being humble in your abilities but confident in your chances to grow will let you shrug off failures. I never would have stuck to blogging unless I had cultivated the humility that told me it would be a lot of hard work.
谦逊感和幽默感可以帮助你在艰难时刻继续前进。我并不相信压倒性的自信心就可以通向成功。在自己的能力上保持谦虚，但在自己成长的机会上保持自信，这会让你摆脱失败。如果不是我的谦逊感告诉我我要付出很多努力，我可能就不会坚持写博客。

Humility doesn’t necessarily mean you have low self-esteem. It just means you are focused more on doing things without expecting immediate success.
谦虚并不意味着你就要自卑。这只是说你应该更关注做事情本身，而不是期待短时间内取得成功。

Many Eastern philosophies emphasize goalless action. This doesn’t mean that you should not strive for anything, but that you should detach yourself from the outcome. If you win, great. If you lose, then you are one step closer.
许多东方的哲学思想都强调无为而治。这并不是说你什么都不该争取，而是说你不要关注结果。如果你赢了，当然很好。如果你输了，你至少离成功又近了一步。

7. Stop Analyzing and Start Doing Something New
7. 不要再分析，开始做些新的事情

There is a maximum limit to how much you can learn from an experience. That limit is actually fairly small with an isolated incident. If you give one speech and it fails, you might be able to learn one or two points of improvement. That’s it. Anything you “learn” after this threshold is just speculation which is often incorrect.
你能从一段经历当中学习当的东西是有上限的。就一个单独的事件而言，其实极其有限。如果你发表了一次演讲结果失败了，你也许可以学会在一两点上做出改进。仅此而已。而在这之后你所“学到”的东西其实只不过是些推测，而且多半还不正确。

I’ve seen people in failed relationships, goals that went sour or broken commitments, try to learn everything from just one failure. Unfortunately, the only way you can learn isn’t just to fail once but to fail dozens of times. Trying to scoop up too much information on a bad situation just leaves you feeling miserable with the false sensation that you are accomplishing something useful.
我见过那些经历了情感破裂、目标失败或承诺破碎的人，他们试图从一次失败里学会一切。不幸的是，你想要学会，唯一的办法不是经历一次失败，而是无数次失败。试图从一次失败里总结出过多的信息只会让你感觉痛苦，让你误以为自己做了一件很有用的事。