好朋友坏朋友：6招识破“自私”的朋友

If you like self-torture, then find and keep selfish friends around you. In fact, if you love wasting a ton of time, if you’re looking for the biggest source of social demotivation and remorse, then stick with selfish friends. Having them is like pouring love and emotional investment in a black hole and expecting it to love you back.
要是你喜欢自虐，那就跟自私自利的人为伍吧。要是你宁愿浪费大把时间、宁愿扎进消极悲观与自悲自叹的人堆里，那么跟这些人做朋友就好比把爱心与感情无节制地投进一个黑洞，却又期望对方能给予你同样的回报。

If you want to live a great social life, then stay away from these folks. The hardest thing about them is that they know how to hide themselves in nice and interesting personalities. This article is about to show you how to spot them before you invest yourself in friendships that will hurt and disappoint you. Here are the six signs you’re dealing with a take-all selfish friend…
如果你希望自己的生活积极向上，那就请远离消极的人。最难的是，这些人懂得如何将自己伪装得善良而风趣。所以，这篇文章就告诉你如何识别这种人，以免自己跟他们做了朋友后反倒落得失望与受伤。

Sign 1 – They Think They Deserve Special Treatment
特征1：他们自认为理应受到特殊礼遇

The selfish friend, the one you don’t wanna get involved with, thinks he or she is special. They think that they deserve to be treated in a special way, and will ask for favors, big and small, even if you’re just starting to get to know them.
那种你不想与之有任何瓜葛的自私朋友，总觉得自己是与众不同的。他们总认为自己理应受到特殊对待，总是要你提供或大或小的帮助——哪怕你才认识他们。

Sign 2 – For Him, You’re A Detail
特征2：你在他心里根本不算什么

After you do him a favor, the selfish friend barely says thank you, and if he does, it doesn’t sound sincere. Try and ask him for a favor, though, and see him brush it off and never follow through with it. He or she can give you an evasive answer like “ok, I’ll call you later about this”, but it never happens. Sometimes, they just act like you never asked for anything.
就算你帮了他，自私的朋友也很少感谢你；就算他说了谢谢，听上去也不是发自肺腑。你可以试着请他帮忙，他肯定会支支吾吾不付诸行动。或许他/她会含糊不清地跟你说：“好的，等我有空打电话给你再说吧。” 但其实他/她压根儿不会打电话给你。有时候，他们装得像模像样，就好像你从来没提过请他们帮忙一样。

Sign 3 – Shady Plans
特征3：不靠谱的计划

The selfish person can cancel a meeting with you at the last minute, giving you fake excuses, and rarely saying “I’m sorry”, because he thinks he’s too special to apologies When you suggest that you meet with him, he carefully thinks of all the other choices he has, and if he has nothing “better” to do, he’ll meet you. He usually calls when he’s bored and has no other plans.
自私的人会在最后一秒放你鸽子，然后找出各种堂皇的借口，却很少真心说一句“抱歉”。因为在他看来，他很特殊，没必要跟你说抱歉。如果你提出跟他见面，他会仔细想想自己是否还有其他选择，如果没有“更好”的事情可做，他才会考虑答应你。他打电话给你通常只是因为自己无聊到了极点。

The selfish person decides where he wants to go, then finds people to go with him. That’s fine, but, he’ll suggest it to many people, and it seems that it doesn’t matter to him who goes with him. In other words, he hangs out with you to avoid being alone, not because he likes you.
自私的人总是决定自己想去的地方，然后再找人一起陪他。这原本无可厚非，但他会表现得让很多人以为，其实他根本不在乎谁来陪他。换句话说，他选择跟你在一起并不是因为他喜欢你，而只是因为他自己不想一个人罢了。