无限乐观主义：我最爱的5条正能量贴士

“Having a positive mental attitude is asking how something can be done rather than saying it can’t be done.” Bo Bennett
心态积极的人会问怎样才能把事情做好，而不是抱怨事情根本无法着手。”——柏·班奈特

When you have found an opportunity in what seemed like a totally negative situation then focus on what you can do and take action on.
如果你能在逆境中寻得一线机会，那就从你力所能及的地方开始行动吧。

Ask yourself: what is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling and move forward with this situation?
请问问自己：今天我可以实施哪些小计划，好让整个情况有所改观呢？

Just take that one small step today. Then another tomorrow. The small steps tend to add up quickly and, as I mentioned above, will breed confidence that allow you to take more and bigger steps.
然后，今天只需做好那个小计划就行了。明天再做好明天的。就像我在前文所说，小细节能迅速累积并增强自信心，促使你做出更大的改变。

5. Learn to reduce and handle worries.
5. 学会减忧抗忧。

“When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.” Winston Churchill
每次我遇到令人担忧的事情，就会想起一位垂死老人说的话：我一生总在无止境地忧虑，其实很多担忧从未真正发生过。”——温斯顿·丘吉尔

Worries can be very destructive.
忧虑的杀伤力非常巨大。

But most of the things you fear will happen never happen. They are just nightmares or monsters in your own mind. And if they happen then they will most often not be as painful or bad as you expected. Worrying is most often just a waste of the time you have here.
其实，很多人们担心的事情并不会真正发生，都只是你心中的梦魇或恶念罢了。而且，即便发生了，也并不会像你想的那样痛苦或糟糕。忧虑纯粹只会浪费你的大好时光。

I know, this is easy to say. But what can you do about it?
当然，说起来容易，那到底该怎么做呢？

What has worked for me is a similar combination that I mentioned above.
有个方法我在前文已经提过，非常有效：

I first use my stop phrase: No, no, we are not going there!
我会先告诉自己：不行，决不能那样！

Then I ask myself a question based on Churchill’s quote: how many of my worries and things I feared came into my reality in the past? The answer is: very few.
然后我会想到丘吉尔的那句名言，问自己：到目前为止，我所担心的事情有多少真正发生了呢？答案是：很少。

By repeating this over and over this quick process becomes a habit and starts to pop up often quite automatically when my mind starts to worry about something. And that has been a wonderful help.
然后，我会一再重复这点直到养成习惯：每当我不自觉地开始忧虑时，大脑就会自动予以警告。如此一来，生活便轻松快乐多了。