情感必修课：与幸福有关的7大沟通小贴士

A romantic rut can do more than just damage your relationship; it can have a serious impact on your mental health as well.
感情有隔阂不仅危害两人的关系，还会对心理健康造成严重创伤。

When you’re fighting with your partner or you become distant, everything seems to become more frustrating and all you can focus on is the negative. The best way to have a healthy relationship is to communicate with each other effectively and often. While it seems so simple, it’s something many of us struggle with as we get wrapped up in our own busy schedules and forget what (or in this case, who) is really important to us.
当你跟伴侣争吵或疏远时，一切会变得令人沮丧，触目所及尽是些消极的东西。若想拥有健康的伴侣关系，最好的办法便是双方多进行有效沟通。说起来简单，但做起来并不那么容易。很多人总是忙着应付自己的日常琐事，常常忘了关心生活中最重要的那个人。

Safeguard your relationship and your health with these 7 easy communication tips:
以下7个简单的沟通贴士有助于帮你经营感情并维持身心健康：

1. Talk every day
每天交流

Make it a point to have a real, open, honest conversation with your partner every day when possible. You’re with the person you love so you should be able to discuss things that are important to you without fear of being judged. Try going for a relaxing after-dinner walk together and talk about what’s on your mind. Just be sure to hold hands – affection is just as important!
每天尽可能和伴侣真实坦诚地交流。你爱这个人，应该跟他说说对你来说很重要的事情，而不必担心受到评判。试着饭后一起轻松地散散步，跟他说说你的想法。另外别忘了牵手哦——感情还是要培养的！

2. Compliment each other
多多赞美

Everyone loves to be complimented! The key here is to compliment things beyond the physical – although telling your partner they look great can’t hurt. If your husband is a great cook, tell him how much you appreciate his skills, and if your wife is a great listener, let her know. Compliments that go beyond skin deep make a bigger impact and mean a lot more.
每个人都喜欢被人称赞！重点是你要多赞美伴侣外貌以外的方面——当然，赞美他神采飞扬也无可厚非。如果你的丈夫擅长做菜，可以多赞扬他的厨艺；如果你的妻子善于倾听，就让她知道。赞美内在的优点，意义和影响要深远得多。

3. Be thoughtful
细微体贴

If your partner has a big meeting or a huge project to work on that day, send him/her a text or a cute email to let them know you’re thinking about them and to wish them good luck. If your partner stayed home sick, come home with their favorite soup. Little gestures show that you’re in tune with their needs and remind them how much you care about them.
如果你的伴侣当天有一场会议或一项重大项目，那就给他发条短信或轻松的邮件，表达一下你的关心并祝他搞定一切。如果你的伴侣卧病在家，那么你下班后可以给他炖一碗美味的汤。这些细微的举动恰好体现出你对他的关心，表明你真的很在乎他。

4. Fight logically
理智争论

If you find yourself in the midst of a brewing fight, be logical and specific about what you have to say, and most importantly, remain calm. If you’re frustrated because your partner didn’t do something they agreed to do, tell them how you feel without yelling broad accusations like, “You always break your promises!” Try instead, “I feel hurt because you said that you would do this, but you didn’t.”
如果你感到你们快要爆发争吵，那么请保持镇定，有理有据地讲明自己的观点。如果你感到沮丧，因为伴侣明明答应的事情又没去做，可以把你的情绪告诉他，但不要一味指责大喊：“你总是食言！”你可以试着跟他说：“我很难过。因为你明明答应过，结果却又没去做。”