关于幸福的8个传说 你都信吗？

Myth: A major crisis drains happiness more so than everyday annoyances.
传说：大危机似乎比日程琐事更容易减少幸福

Science says: Although most of us believe that significant events, such as a car accident or a job layoff, can affect your happiness more than daily hassles, it turns out that the mundane has a bigger impact. Researchers say this is because we’re extremely motivated to reach out to our community when we are coping with crises, but we don’t seek social support for little things, like a kid’s temper tantrum or a terrible commute.
科学发现：我们大部分人都认为大事情，比如车祸或是失业会比日常琐事更容易影响你的幸福感，但实际上琐事影响才更大。研究者发现在处理危机时，我们总是积极寻求身边人的帮助，但一些琐事，比如小孩突然发脾气或是糟糕的交通则往往不需要动用我们的社会支持。

Boost your bliss: Address these seemingly small issues, counsels Lyubomirsky, by talking with friends, reframing events in a more positive light, or finding time to recharge and regenerate.
提升幸福感：Lyubomirsky说，不妨把这些琐事都说出来，告诉朋友，或是在更积极的情况下看待这件事，或是找时间来调整修复一下吧。

Myth: Once you hit a certain age, your best years are behind you.
传说：一旦到了某个年纪，最好的年岁就没有了。

Science says: Although most people believe that happiness declines with age, Lyubomirsky says that this couldn’t be farther from the truth. Three recent studies showed that the peak of positive emotional experience occurred at age 64, 65, and 79. “When we begin to recognize that our years are limited, we change our perspective about life,” she writes. “The shorter time horizon motivates us to become more present-oriented and to invest our time and effort into the things in life that really matter.”
科学发现：尽管很多人认为幸福随着年龄的增长逐渐减少，Lyubomirsky说这绝对不是真的。近期三个研究发现人生最幸福的三个年龄点分别为64,65和79岁。“当我们意识到时间有限，我们就会改变对生命的看法。”“剩下来的时间越少就越会激励我们更加看重现在，然后去花时间和经历在真正重要的地方。”

Boost your bliss: Use your memories to boost—not detract from—your happiness. Research shows that people are happier when they relish and luxuriate in the positive memories of happy past events, but don’t try to dissect the details too much. On the other hand, deliberately analyzing painful memories (a bad breakup, a job layoff) to make sense of them and get past them increases happiness.
提升幸福度：用回忆来增加而不是减少幸福。研究发现在人们回想过去快乐积极的时光时会更加幸福，但也不要过多的去回想那些细节。另一方面，仔细分析痛苦的回忆（一次糟糕的分手，失业）来从中学习，好让自己迅速翻篇增加幸福感。