爱情课堂：伤感情的十大习惯

While you can pass the odd sarcastic quip off as a joke, there is often a deep seated hostility towards your partner at play behind the persistent use of sarcasm to put your partner down. If you want your relationship to flourish it’s time to look inwards and work out why you’re behaving this way before it’s too late. You might find your partner starts to push you away or avoids spending time with you out of fear and anger – being on the receiving end of sarcasm can be especially wearing.
当你把冷嘲热讽当笑话说时，说明你内心深处对他充满敌意，希望通过不断的挖苦打击他。如果你希望关系融洽，在无法挽回之前赶快自省，挖出作祟的恶魔。你或许发现对方已开始回避你，或出于恐惧和恼怒不愿和你在一起——被讽刺挖苦的滋味可不好受啊！

7. Drinking too much
贪杯

A nice relaxing glass of wine after a hard day’s work is one thing, but if one or both of you find yourselves drinking until you’re legless most nights, it’s a clear signal something’s not right between you and that you’re using alcohol to mask the shortcomings of the relationship. Unnecessary flare-ups are inevitable when there’s too much booze involved. Nobody wants to date a drunk so sober up or seek professional help before it’s too late to salvage things.
紧张的工作之余来一杯轻松一下是一回事，但如果你或你俩差不多夜夜喝得找不着北，那毫不疑问，你俩之间出问题了，你们在用酒精掩盖关系中的裂痕。一旦豪饮成了家常便饭，发生争执肯定在所难免了。谁愿意跟酒鬼在一起，所以别再贪杯，或者向专家求助，否则你将抱撼终生。

8. Overspending
消费无节制

Money can be a bone of contention whether you’re being supported by your partner or are the main breadwinner in the relationship. Exceeding your weekly budget on a regular basis shows a lack of respect for your partner while showing off by flashing your cash when he doesn’t have as much to spend can easily cause resentment. So watch your wallet.
不论夫妻二人中谁挣钱养家，钱总是争吵的根源。每周总是超预算开销，会让他觉得没有得到应有的尊重，而在他挣不到很多钱时你却大把花钱摆阔，你可能会遭到他的嫌恶。所以穿衣吃饭看家当。

9. Checking up on him
监视他

Snooping his Facebook or email account, checking his phone for illicit texts and constantly worrying that his female friends are more than just platonic will drive you seriously nuts. You just can’t live your life in a state of constant fear that he’s hooking up with someone else.
担心他与女性朋友有越轨行为，不是偷窥他的Facebook、电子邮箱帐号，就是查看他的电话，检查是否有不正常信息，无休止的担心会让你发疯。你不能因担心他会勾搭别人而生活在持续的恐惧中。

If he’s cheated on you in the past you need to ask yourself if you truly trust him to be faithful or end things. If you’re just insecure talk to him about how you feel and he should be able to reassure you. Snooping is not the way to solve this problem.
如果他有前科，那你就该好好想想，他是否真的忠实可靠，是否诚心悔改。如果你不放心，那就告诉他你的感受，让他向你保证。监视解决不了问题。

10. Trying to make him jealous
让他忌妒

If you were content in your relationship, flirting with other guys to make your man jealous wouldn’t even cross your mind. So if you find yourself making eyes at the bartender just to make him sit up and notice you, ask yourself why? If it’s because he’s acting non-committal or not paying you enough attention tell him how you feel. Flirting sets a bad precedent – if you can that means he can too. And that’s no use to either of you.
如果你对感情状况还满意，那与男人调情让他吃醋就实在是个馊主意。如果你和酒吧服务员在他眼前眉来眼去，只会让他提防你，为什么要这样做呢？若是因为他缺乏责任感或对你不够关注，直接把想法告诉他。你调情只能为他起到表率作用——你能，他也能。这对双方都不好。