朋友浑身负能量？五大理由远离TA

Most of us have at least one friend we consider toxic: the loser friend who disrupts our entire world the second they step into it. We know things would be so much easier if we cut them loose, yet we spend more time figuring out why we stay than it would take to actually leave.
大多数人都至少有一个浑身散发负能量的“有毒”的朋友：只要他们前脚踏足，我们的世界马上变得乱七八糟。我们都知道远离这样的朋友，事情会变得更加简单，其实我们已经花了太多时间去思考为什么还要留在这样的朋友身边。

Why You Have Loser Friends
为什么你有负能量的朋友

The truth is, it happens for a multitude of reasons:
实际上，有很多原因：

You’ve been friends with them since you were kids.
你们是发小。

You know them so well you’re constantly justifying their behavior.
太了解他们了，所以经常评判他们的行为。

You feel guilty because they don’t have anyone else to turn to.
他们没有其他可以求助的对象，所以你会有负罪感。

You feel obligated to spend time with them because they’re a mutual friend of your BFF/spouse/family member.
他们也是你男朋友/配偶/家庭成员，所以你觉得有责任要陪着他们。

You’re afraid of how they’ll react if you confront them (a.k.a. more drama).
如果你跟他们正面遭遇，你很怕他们会有的反应（会更戏剧化）。

You feel it’s easier to deal with them than disrupt your lifestyle any further.
与其破坏现有的生活方式，还不如和他们继续相处下去。

Usually though, it’s a simple case of outgrowing each other. What caused you to “click” initially as friends no longer applies, or your lives are going in completely different directions.
通常情况下，这只是简单的两个人不搭的问题而已。当初让你觉得是朋友的冲动不复存在，或者是你俩的生活方向截然不同。

What Constitutes a Loser Friend?
到底负能量朋友的标志是什么？

When I use the term “loser friend,” I don’t mean they themselves are losers—everyone is entitled to live their life exactly how they want to—but what they’re doing to your life is causing you to lose what you want… and you’re letting it happen.
我用的短语是“负能量朋友”，我的意思并不是他们本身就是负能量的，毕竟每个人都有权利去照着自己的想法来生活，但如果他们给你生活造成的影响使你失去了你想要的东西，你就需要注意了。

If you have friends who do any of the following, you need to seriously consider their place in your life:
如果你有朋友干以下这些事情，你需要认真的考虑考虑他们在你生活中的地位了。

They’re not supportive.
他们帮不上忙。

They’re not there when you need them.
你需要他们的时候总是不在。

They’re only there when they need you.
只有在需要你的时候他们才会出现。

They make you feel drained.
他们让你觉得累。

They have no ambition.
他们没有野心。

They constantly infuriate you.
他们经常激怒你。

They expect you to drop everything when they want to do something.
当他们想干什么的时候，他们希望你能抛下一切。

They think everything is an urgent crisis.
他们觉得每件事都是急事。

Take it from someone who watched her own life implode: if you want to be amazing, you have to spend your time with amazing people. In order to make room for these people, you have to leave your loser friends behind.
从那些内心充满激情的人中学习学习吧：如果你想变得厉害，你必须花时间和那些厉害的人在一起。为了空出时间给这些人，还是抛下负能量的朋友们吧。