成长中可能没人告诉你的20件事

Treating people with respect and decency can get you a long way in the world. Remember that “honey attracts more flies than vinegar.” Being nice to people really does actually matter to people. You won’t get anywhere tearing other people down or blaming others for anything. Take responsibility for yourself, your actions and your feelings.
礼貌得体待人可以使你走得更长远。请记住：“蜂蜜比酸醋招蜂多。”善待他人真的非常重要。不论在什么场合、为了什么事情，都不要挖苦责备他人。请为自己的言行情绪负责。

12. Relationships Don’t Come Easy
亲密关系不易形成

Choosing a life partner/spouse is hard. Relationships in general are hard, not just romantic ones but friendships and family relations as well. Stay in touch with people who you really care about and who really care about you. Make an effort to stay an active person in their life if you really care. You will not have as many close friends as you get older and you will probably lose some friends as well. Remember that it is okay, not everyone who comes into your life is meant to stay forever; let them go and cherish the people who are still in your life.
选择生活伴侣并不容易。亲密关系都不易形成：不仅是恋爱关系，朋友关系和亲人关系也是如此。选择真正在乎你而你又非常喜欢的人。如果你当真在乎，那请在他们的生活里保持积极乐观。亲密朋友不会随着年龄的增长而变得越来越多，相反，你甚至会失去一些朋友。但你也不必太介意，毕竟生活中不是所有人都能一直陪伴身边；离开的姑且离开，现有的更应珍惜。

13. Be Prepared To Deal With Changes in Relationships
关系有变时，要懂得处理

Look at your time with exes and be thankful; even though it didn’t work out, at least you got to experience it and learn from it. You rolled the dice and lost, but at least you took a chance! Don’t think that just because something wasn’t meant to be for your entire life doesn’t mean it didn’t add value and was right where you needed to be at the time.
回望与前任的时光，请心存感激；虽然你们有缘无分，但至少你拥有过、收获过。虽然赌输了，但你至少抓住了机会！不要因为事情未尽人意就片面否定当时的价值与意义。

In your 20s, especially if you have a family, it gets harder and harder to spend time with friends because of so many different time demands. You will be pulled in every direction and it’s up to you to decide what your priorities are. Having a couple of close friends you can rely on can make a difference in your life. As they say “shared joy is doubled, shared sorrow is halved.”
20几岁时，如果你还建立了家庭，那么跟朋友厮混的时间会越来越少，因为占时间的事情变多了。事情四面八方涌来，你必须决定优先次序。如果能有几个好友，那会大有不同：因为朋友“既可以使快乐翻倍，又能让悲伤减半”。

14. Take Every Chance You Get
把握每一次机会

Life is about taking chances, grabbing opportunities and taking risks. Don’t be afraid to try something new, move somewhere new, work somewhere new, meet new people and learn something new.
生活就是要把握机遇、勇于冒险。别害怕尝试新鲜事物、移居陌生地方、进入新工作环境、认识新朋友或学习新东西。

15. Let Go of Expectations
抛开期望

Expectations ruin everything and most of the time our expectations are too high for those around us and for ourselves. No one is perfect and nothing is ever going to be perfect. The faster you can learn this and let go of too high or false expectations, the easier life will come to you. Expectations bring heartache and only cause harm. Expect nothing and appreciate everything.
期望搞砸一切。我们对自己及周围人的期望往往偏高。人无完人、金无足赤。若你能及早明白这一道理，放弃过高或离谱的期望，生活会轻松很多。期望使人紧张受伤。停止期望、享受一切。