成长中可能没人告诉你的20件事

Don’t worry because everyone has ups and downs. It’s just how life is. Life is extremely messy and complicated, but don’t despair because things will work out in the end. Keep living and keep on doing what you enjoy. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
每个人都会经历起起落落，请不要纠结烦恼。生活原本如此——混乱而复杂。所以，请不要感到绝望，事情最后总归会柳暗花明。继续生活，继续做自己喜欢的事。何必把自己逼得太紧。

17. You Get What You Put In
种瓜得瓜，种豆得豆

Happiness, love and confidence come from within. Life is what you make of it and what you put into it. You can create whatever life you want, and if you create that life and it doesn’t work for you anymore, guess what? You can create a whole new life that does work. You may not have a choice in things that happen to you but you have a choice in how you react to them. Try to stay positive no matter what life throws at you and get through the tough times by talking to friends, family and a counselor if you need to.
快乐、爱与自信源于内心。你付出什么，生活就会反馈给你什么。你可以随心创造自己想要的生活，如果创造的生活不尽人意，那你完全可以从头再来！你或许奈何不了周围发生的事情，但你至少可以选择如何应对它们。不论生活发生什么，请保持积极乐观；遇到困难时，可以跟朋友、家人或者咨询人员倾诉。

18. You Will Face Rejection
你会遭遇拒绝

You will be rejected at some point in your life. Rejection hurts at the very core of your being, but try not to take it too personally. Oftentimes, when you’re rejected it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the person rejecting you. Take it in stride, let it slide off your back and move on. I know this is easier said than done, but it will go a long way in making you feel better and happier.
你会在生活的某个时刻遭遇拒绝。拒绝让你大受打击，但你不可太往心里去。有时候，被拒绝并不是你的问题，而是对方的责任。所以，请坦然面对、一笑而过，然后继续前行。我知道，说起来容易做起来难，但它能使你更舒心快乐。

19. You Will Not Have Everything Figured Out Anytime Soon
你不可能任何时候都能很快想通一切

If you don’t have everything figured out by the time you’re 30, you’re not alone. If you’re not where you want to be in your life or career, don’t sweat it, you still have time. Some people never figure out what they really want to do with their lives, but they get a lot of great experience, learn new things and can transfer their skills to many types of jobs. If you know what you want to do in life, start doing it immediately, practice it as much as possible and you will get better at it.
到了30岁还没弄明白一切？不止你一个人这样。如果还没得到渴望的生活或职业，也请不要焦躁，你还有时间。有些人从没想清楚自己真正想要什么，但他们却能不断尝试新鲜事物、积累丰富经验、学习各式岗位的技能。如果你清楚知道自己要的是什么，那就立刻去做，只要不断磨练，总能越做越好。

20. Love More and Keep Your Heart Open
敞开心怀，多付爱心

Love is all that really matters in the end.Give of yourself more than anything. Try to be patient, empathetic, understanding, caring and gentle with other people. Get to know people better by asking questions and listening attentively. People usually like to talk about themselves and questions are a great way to get conversations going. Love people for who they are, just as they are, and realize that everyone is a work in progress! Life is a continual work in progress. We’re all just trying to find our way, and we’re all confused and looking for contentment. Life is a journey, and happiness is not a destination to arrive at, but a way of living.
爱是最后的真谛，比任何东西都重要。请学会耐心、悲悯和理解，请关心并温柔对待他人。有疑而问、悉心倾听，以此更进一步了解他人。人们通常都喜欢谈论自己，提问是展开话题的好方法。热爱人们本真的模样，发掘每个人的进步！生活本身就在不断进步，我们都在努力追寻、都心存困惑、也都渴求慰藉。生活是场旅程，幸福并不是理应到达的目的地，而只是一种生活的状态。