社交课堂：10种方式做更好的倾听者

When someone is telling you their story, they aren’t looking for you to interrupt with analysis or suggestions. Hear them out. Repeat back to them what you heard. You can put on your “fix it” hat later. (Only if asked!)
当有人向你讲述他们的故事时，他们不希望你打断他，作分析、提建议。听他们说完，重复你听到的内容，最后你可以作补充（只是在对方要求你的情况下）。

7. Don’t Do Other Work
放下其他工作

In our busy technology driven world, it is tempting to send off that quick text or answer that email. Don’t. People can tell when you are doing something else. You may think it is a brief task, but it tells the other person that you have more important work to do. This is not the time to multi-task.
在如今这个被科技所驱使的忙碌世界里，发一条短信回复一封邮件很诱人。不要这样做，人们能感觉到你在忙别的事情。你可能认为，这是长话短说的事情，但其他人会理解为有更重要的工作在等你。这不是多项工作一起做的时候。

8. Put the Cell Phone Down
放下手机

We give our phones too much control over us. We jump any time they ring, beep, or buzz. So, silence your phone. Turn it off or put it in a drawer. Better yet, “Stop having an affair with your smartphone.”
手机牵着我们的鼻子走，手机一响，不论嘟嘟还是嗡嗡，我们都会一跃而起。所以让手机安静一会儿，关掉它或把它丢进抽屉里。最好“不要与你的智能手机扯不清理还乱”。

9. Question
提问

Ask questions to show that you care and that you are in the conversation. Don’t go into interrogation mode. Ask interest questions like, “What happened next?” or “How did you feel then?”
问问题表示，你关心谈话的内容，而且你的思想就在交谈中。不要误入审问模式。问表示关心的问题，如：“接下来呢？”或“你当时什么感觉？”

10. Thank Them
表示感谢

After a conversation, say “Thank you for talking to me.” You don’t have to provide an answer or magical solution. Often, the other person just wants to be heard and acknowledged. Be there for them and just listen.
交谈结束后，说“谢谢你与我交谈”。你不必提供答案或奇妙的解决方案。对方常常只希望被倾听被认同，在他们身边仅仅倾听就够了。

When you are speaking with someone, be in the moment. Give them your full attention. Don’t let interruptions stop the conversation. Be present. Turn off the tech. And just listen. You may just make the other person feel like your top priority.
和某人交谈时，要排除干扰。给他们你全部的注意力，不要让干扰中断交谈。不分心，关掉高科技产品，静心倾听。你会让对方感觉到你最重视他。