让自己变更好：不要期待别人去做的9件事

 Life is full of experiences and trials that you never saw coming. Sometimes what we expect to happen and the reality of the situation are 2 very different things. Expectations are nice to have. They give you goals, purpose, joy and even something to look forward to, but you have to understand that life happens: you’re not always in control.
生活充满不期而遇的经历。有时现实跟我们的期待完全是两码事。期待很美好，给人以目标和快乐，使人有所憧憬，但你得明白：生活并不尽在你的掌控之中。

Some expectations are good to have and some are unhealthy. Here’s a list of expectations that if you have, you need to change. By changing certain expectations in your life, you are opening yourself up to new experiences, new ways of thinking and even a greater sense of accomplishment that you otherwise could not have received.
有些期待很美好，而有些则无益。下面列出应该改变的期待。调整对生活的某些期待，你会迎来新体验和新思维，甚至还能获得前所未有的成就感。

1. Stop Expecting People to be Perfect:
停止期待别人尽善尽美

If you have this mindset, you will always be disappointed. People will never live up to your expectations. There’s nothing wrong with having high expectations for people, but understand that when they fail, and they will, they still tried. Be understanding and don’t expect perfection.
如果你总要求别人做到完美，那你必然一直失望，因为人们永远也不可能达到你的期望。对人有很高的期望其实也无可厚非，但请记住：就算对方没能做到，他们也尽力了。所以请多加体谅，不要苛求完美。

2. Stop Expecting the Worst from People:
停止预料别人糟糕透顶

On the flip side, if you’re always expecting people to fail, you’re not giving them the chance to succeed. Encourage those around you. Help them, teach them. That’s how they will grow and be able to accomplish hard things.
反之，如果你总觉得别人会栽跟头，那等于是在扼杀他们成功的机会。你应该多鼓励他们、帮助他们、指导他们。这样他们才能成长并征服困难。

3. Stop Expecting People to Pay for You:
停止期望别人为你买单

Your finances are your responsibility. You shouldn’t expect people to pay for your entertainment, your bills or even your groceries. Get in control of your money. Once you have a budget, stick to it. Just because all your friends go out to lunch doesn’t mean you have to. There are differences between needs and wants—if you want something, save up for it; don’t expect your friends or family to pitch in and get it for you.
你应该为自己的经济状况负责，不要期望别人请你出去玩、给你买单或付菜钱。管好自己的钱袋，制定预算并坚持执行。朋友全都在外吃饭并不表示你必须跟着去。“需要”和“渴望”是有区别的：如果你渴望什么，那就自己存钱，不要妄想亲友买了送给你。

4. Stop Expecting Things to Always Go Wrong:
停止担忧万事不顺

Whatever streak of bad luck you may think you’ve been having, you shouldn’t come to expect that out of everything. Learn to stay positive. If you look for the good in things you will find them, and it’s the same with bad things. If your whole focus is on situations never turning out how you want them to, they never will.
不管你觉得自己现在有多倒霉，也不要因此意象出无数噩运。学会保持积极乐观。如果你心怀美好，就会发现美好；反之亦然。要是你一心以为一切都不会变成期望的那样，结果还真会事与愿违。